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writes: I am a 23 year old women who just recently got a divorce from my ex that i was with for 4 years. Now i am seeing a man who brings his son to the daycare center that i work at. I admit that i have been treating him like crap for a few months and he said he is ready to leave me if i dont change my ways of acting. I am very insucure from past relationships and i have a hard time trusting people that come into my life. I have a tendinsy of pushing guy's buttons until they do leave me. i really care about him and i dont want to loose him. How do i get over being insucure and being able to trust him. Help!!!
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reader, mommyofthree +, writes (23 January 2006):
 It is only natural to be a little insecure after being in bad relationships, the trick is not transferring all of the bad things done to you in the past onto your current boyfriend. If you a recently divorced, you may have gotten into this relationship a bit too quickly and not allowed your heart and mind the proper healing time, if this is the case you could seek help from a qualified counselor who can help you to work through your issues. Seeking help may also buy you time with your boyfriend because he will see that you are taking the proper steps to recovering the old you and relief will be in sight. As with all matters of the heart this could take some time, you will need to make a conscious effort to treat your boyfriend in a manner in which he deserves, and while it will seem hard in the beginning it will become habit as time goes on. Talk with him and explain your reasons for treating him poorly, then you both need to discuss how you each expect to be treated and really give it your all to take action. Good luck.
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