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male
age
36-40,
anonymous
writes:My girlfriend is at college about 3hours away and we talk everyday and we plan on getting married, but lately ive been kinda worried about another man.Shes tried to make friends there because is true that its hard to get through school with no friends but her closest friend she met was a guy named alex. At first alex liked my girlfriend until she let him know she had a boyfriend that was a month ago but lately theyve been hanging out alot lately. They go to the campus lunchroom to have breakfast and dinner together and my girlfriend says hes just a closefriend, they go eat alot together and sometimes they go play pool but usually its with a few other firends, but last night me and my girlfriend got in a argument because i could only talk for a hour last night because i made plans to hang out with my friend who i havent seen in a month.i told her to call me when shes done with her homework and even though im hanging out with my friend, i still want to talk to her, and she said ok. Well about 10mins after that she called me back and said "i wont be able to call you later alex called me and we are going to play pool"(just the two of them), so i was upset a little, but i just shrugged it off, then tonight i got home from work, excited to talk to my girlfriend and i called twice, no answer then after 30mins she calls me back and only says "hey, just wanted to let you know that im going to be playing pool with joe and ill call you back in a hour". Now im really upset because its not just a random friend its a friend of the opposite sex and one that obviously likes her!!What do i do and is there anything going on??
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 March 2009): It's very possible that you're over analyzing. Either way, let her know how you feel and ask her if there's anything going on.
My boyfriend has similar insecurities because 80% of my friends are male and I have to assure him that he's the only guy for me. He and I have been together for 8 years next month and our relationship is still going strong. The other males I like to spend my time with when he's not around are just friends. If any of my male friends end up crushing on me, they need to snap back to reality because it's not going to happen.
I'd be worried the moment she gets shady about where she's going or who she's with. Hopefully she's straight with you. I suggest not worrying unless you've got hard evidence to worry about. Trust her unless you've got a real reason to do otherwise.
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