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writes:I am torn between my gf and my ex. I would like to get back with my ex, but am still madly in love with my gf.There are days when all I can think about is my ex and would give up everything for her, but other days, all I think about is my gf.Me and my gf are long distance and she is currently starting her preliminary examinations, so I just cannot break up with her now because she needs to have a clear head.I am completely in love with both of them. I want to spend the rest of my life with my gf, but when I am around my ex, she is all I want.What can I do? I sometimes feel like I should break up with my gf, but am terrified to lose her. My mind is just so mixed up.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 November 2006): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionMy ex called me last night and is saying she wants me back. I am crazy about my gf, but still am in love with my ex.
I feel like I need my ex, but I can't do without my gf in my life, I feel helpless.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 November 2006): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI want my gf, but I think I need my ex, and vice versa.
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reader, Lostandalone  +, writes (13 November 2006):
 I've been there. Its seems as if its like what Jovial said its between what you want and what you need and most people end up going for what they want or what they think they want. Its good that your not playing mind games with them and you can suffer in silence. I have figured since I was there that my ex is the one that I truly love but my current is really sweet and she is almost like the female version of me. I still think of my ex even when I'm with my current. I know that if my ex came back to me I would take her back but I also know that my current will always love me. Hard decision. Soul search and what makes it easier is you have to know at the end of the day the person you are with makes you happy and everything else is just fond memories. Sometimes it takes being apart for people to realize how much they love each other.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 November 2006): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionWe finished because we could never listen to one another, but now that we have seperated, we can talk more.
My ex doesn't know that I still love her, so I am not playing mindgames. I want to be with only my gf, but I just cant get my ex out of my head. She is single still. We broke up around 6 months ago, but I did think I was over her until last month. I saw her and the feelings all suddenly came back.
My gf is the only one I want, but I fear my ex is the one I will ever truly love. I know it doesn't make sense, thats why it is so hard and confusing.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 November 2006): Why did you and your ex break up? Ask yourself what it is that so attacts you to her. I need to know a bit more about the split.
I know where you are coming from. YOU cannot string along your girlfriend if you still have feelings for your ex. Is your ex with someone else? Do you have to be around your ex at all. do you have kids together? if not then keep well away then she just cannot get inside of your head.
You say your girlfriend is at the start of her preliminary exams. Don't you think you owe it to your girlfriend and yourself to put your ex firmly in the past and move on into the future. What is so good about the ex that the new gf doesn't stand up to? Don't play mind games with them. It's not fair. You will never completely get your cake and eat it without someone getting hurt. Take care xx
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reader, Jovial  +, writes (13 November 2006):
 hello there
i think what u need is to figure out what u want and what u need in a realtionship as reality goes u cant have it all, after u have figured that out answer another question again: what u are looking for? do u want a relationship that gives what u want or what u need? then u will know between the two which one is for u bcos because they cant be equal another one is what u want and the other is what u need thats why u want to spend the rest of ur life with ur girlfrend and ur ex is all u want when only around her. the choice is urs just dont waist too much of their time they both deserve better.
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reader, frank8080 +, writes (13 November 2006):
 this is a tuff one mate no one can relly help you on this one you have just got to think for what is best for you at this point in time good luke
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