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writes:Hi everyoneI'm gonna get straight to the pointI'm in love with one of my friends, and she's the same sex as meI have been for about a year now, but I can't tell herI really want to, I just dont know where to startCan anyone help me, give me tips, or anything?Much appreciatedNaomi x Reply to this Question
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reader, NaomiRose +, writes (13 May 2008):
NaomiRose is verified as being by the original poster of the question Thanks for all of your replies, I really appreciate them.She doesn't know i'm bisexual, Ive never had a same sex relationship before. It's extremely tormenting, sometimes I just wanna sit down and tell her straight, come what may. But i'd rather take it slowly. We do flirt, holding hands and stuff when we're in public, but I presume she takes it as over-friendly.I dont know.Hopefully it'll all work out.If you have any more advice, please let me know (past experiences and such, please private message me for a chat)Naomi x
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reader, Nibblet  +, writes (12 May 2008):
 well do you now if shes ok with gay people? cuz it will make it a lot easier to tell her if shes ok with them. you can start by saying you have feeling for girls and slowly tell her you like her or you can write her a note explaining it, its a lot easier to write everything down and have it all organized on paper, thats how i told my best friend i liked her.
hope this helped
message me if you want to talk (ive been though it)
Good Luck!!!
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reader, Colesy11 +, writes (12 May 2008):
This must be tormenting you completely. I don't pretend to know a lot about same sex relationships but I will try to offer some impartial advice. Is your friend aware that you are gay or have you hidden it from them? If she is aware then she may have made some remarks or flirtation if she is interested in you and feels the same. I would say that your best way to do this though is like you have done today, get straight to the point. You need to know and you will be able to move on either for better or worse. Try and get some alone time - go out shopping together or for a drink and tell her how you feel and make it quite clear. There is no room for misunderstandings here and make sure you get a clear answer from her as well. You will feel lot better once you have told her believe me.
Good luck and I hope it all works out for you. Let us know!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 May 2008): Well... you could start by getting her opinion on homosexuality and if she's dead against it then don't tell her, the last thing you want to do is ruin your friendship. If she's ok with it start by telling her you think you may be gay/bi and see what comes of that. Then I think the best thing to do is to hint slowly that you like her.. People can get freaked out if you just straight up tell them that you love them!
If you feel that you need to tell her because it's getting too much to keep inside then you should, and when it's the right time to tell her you'll know it.
I've been in a similar situation recently so if you want to private message me that's be fine!
Keep us updated!
xx Hope xx
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