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writes: (beware of long, rambling story. YOU HAVE BEEN WARNED)I'm in love with my friend. We have history; we had a short fling at the beginning of our friendship which never went anywhere. We've both dated other people since then and we've become a lot closer. He's really nice to me and ever a gentleman, and as it turns out we have a lot more in common than we initially thought. I don't know how he feels about me (he seems to like me a lot, if only as a person), but the more I get to know him, the more attractive I find him. When we're spending time together, there's this amazing vibe between us. My best friend thinks we're kind of made for each other, as friends or otherwise. Random strangers ask us if we're dating (a comment which we often dismiss as a joke). We're both single at the moment (myself newly so), and I'm moving away in a year. I'm tempted to go for broke and tell him how I feel, or even just seduce him, but I'm afraid that if it goes wrong I'll lose his friendship, and I don't want to spend the rest of the year living in the same town as him if he won't talk to me. I've felt this way about him for a year now, I've dated other people but nobody compares to him. I really think I'm in love with him. What should I do? Should I make a move because we won't be conveniently single forever? Should I leave it alone, just be his friend and try to ignore the painful jealousy of him seeing another woman? Any advice?
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reader, largentsgirl89  +, writes (19 November 2010):
 Are you ready to live with yourself and ask yourself what could have been? You will never know how he feels or if you two will ever work if you don't try and say something.
Could you handle him being with another woman?
Can you handle not knowing?
I say, go for it. The worst he can say is that he doesn't feel the same, but you two will still have your friendship won't you?
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 November 2010): read this once :
Be Who You Are and Say What You Feel Because Those Who Mind Don't Matter and Those Who Matter Don't Mind.
you know? I think it applies here. love is risky. why risk losing the real thang? tell him. ~/~
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 November 2010): From what I can see the only interference is you. Every second that you let pass without letting him know what you think is a sure thing is another second closer to loses him to another girl. Now's your chance but for how long? Go get her.
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