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writes:help I'm in luv with my cuz. She was born n bought up here in the united states. I came like 5 years ago. I'm insanely in luv with her. I'm not even that close to her. And actually it is allowed in our culture. My other cuz went out wth her sis. Help I don't know how to this. Her best friend added me on facebook. Shud I ask her wha she feels abt me?? Help. Serious answer. No answers with this is wrong. Help. Plz.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 August 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI think I'm gonna bot c her for a whip n meet new gurls. Thanks for all the answers n help.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 August 2008): I am in the same situation but reverse. If your cousin is not around, then in time your relationship with your her will get better and this idea of seeking to hookup with the cousin will fade.
One thing you have to understand, is that fantacies we can control and make them disappear without anyone being involved, but when you share a reality with someone, you can't make that disappear like you could a fantasy, so therefore, you have to be prepared to deal with the emotional attachments you can't turn off once you create a reality together.
If you feel this is something you can do and be mature about not creating a history, then yes maybe you should act on it.
I am not perfect like most of the people writing here but one thing for certain, if this is something you could handle and make disappear like a fantasy, then go for it....but never inform your cousin or anyone about it, because this shouldn't be there burden to bear....it's yours.
Good luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 August 2008): I see nothing wrong, if your cousin agrees to a relationship, then, well, why not.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 August 2008): Well, because you say it's allowed in your culture than hopefully your family won't be shocked or react negatively to your feelings. However, I would tread extremely carefully. If it was just a girl from the neighborhood you could easily walk away and avoid her if it doesn't work out. If your cuz rejects you or things don't work out, you will always have to see her. I know it's hard to turn off feelings, but if there's anyway you can not see her for a while and try to meet new girls, I would suggest it. Good luck!
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