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*onica G
writes:I have fallen in love with my brother in law. He was going through a divorce and my marriage has been on the rocks for 10 years. He ended up moving in with us and we became close,staying up late talking about our problems and just being there for each other. As time went on I started having strong feelings for him I tried to ignore them but they wernt going away. One night I confessed my feelings and found out he felt the same way.I am tring to be honest with myself and my husband, I have told him how I feel about his brother. We are now seperated and my husband still wants me back.I just want to be with his brother.My husband and I have two children and they are my main concern, but I have never felt so in love before it feels so right. What should i do I am stuck between haveing the love I always wanted or living life for the happiness of others? pleas ehelp I am lost...
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 July 2008): I say go for it. I am in the same situation. I have read alot of responces that say you are sick and twisted for feeling the way you do, but sometimes you need to put your happiness 1st. Your not doing you husband or your kids any favors if you are miserable. It may seem selfish, but people are human, be selfish, you only live once. I haven't cheated on my husband with his brother, but his brother and I both have feelings for eachother. We are both married with kids, and we may never take it further than flirting, but I will always wonder what it would be like, and that really sucks. Good luck to you!
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reader, copona  +, writes (18 July 2008):
you go for it girl!Im in love with my bil and i have been for the last 5 years although nothing happen until 2 months ago.We are serious about it and are planning on telling my sister(he never married her)ane my ex who is my bil best friend.My sister has a new partner so....You only live once so make the most of it,I AM!!!
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reader, Flwlss +, writes (15 April 2008):
Go for it! Everyone will get over it at some point.If it's true love it's worth it.Just add him to the picture slowly with your kids.Tell the b-in law to be ready to be their bestfriend and to buy them lots of toys. good luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 February 2008): Monica, you are married to a man and you have now let your emotional boundaries down and fell for his brother. This must be creating the worst type of upheaval and a wedge in the family of these two brothers. My suggestion..get this brother the heck out of your system..asap. And get into marriage counseling with your own husband to find out how to fix your own marriage problems. These problems is what led you to being lonely, needy and unthinking, in the first place. Go to marriage counseling to learn about boundaries and try to keep your marriage strong and happy. Your children will be thankful, you made the wiser choice, especially when they grow up and not have to deal with the family upheaval an affair with your husband's brother and their Uncle will ultimately create. Think and choose wisely.
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