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writes:I've been divorced for three years now, and about 3 months ago met a wonderful guy, at the beginning i thought it will work out for us. He drinks a lot and is very jealous, I can't even say a well known singer is hot or he'll blow a gasket. I met his cousin a few times and I'm in love with him now... he treats me with respect and we enjoy each others company. We haven't done anything (cheated) every time we visit my boyfriends with, but we take chances by going for a drive quickly (when my boyfriends drunk) How can i leave my boyfriend in a good way and tell the cousin how i feel. I don't have an idea if he feels the same (although it looks like it)Please Please Help
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 May 2014): I think that (if you haven't already ) tell the cousin how u feel cause u don't wanna break up with your boyfriend and then the cousin not go out with you.Once you and the cousin have talked , talk to your boyfriend tell him that things aren't really working out with you guys. even if you and the cousin don't end up going out still break up with your boyfriend cause obviously you don't like him and you guys aren't doing well plus her a crazy drunk. good luck with that :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 April 2010): if you love the dude then go to him dont stay with someone who you kn you dont love right now im with a guy n i love his coyusin with all my heart n i wish i could be with him every second of the day but i cant if you love him n theres nothin stoppen you then what are you doin with that other guy hunnie if you love him then you love him dont miss out one the best thing n life the one you love n if he shows respect then he shows he can be a good man to you
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (31 March 2010):
 I don't know how you can leave your b/f in a good way unless he wants to leave like you .
You may have to use reverse psychology here to induce your b/f to leave.
Tell him that you want to get married very soon.See how he reacts.
Demand for a big wedding and all those outrageous things you need, a car, house etc. He would be mentally challenged and would run away ..Viola!
I hope it works in your case.
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reader, Tisha-1  +, writes (31 March 2010):
 Definitely break up with the drunken control freak. That's a relationship that sounds doomed and frankly, not good for your health. I think the cousin has some idea that you like him by this point, I'm sure you've let him know through words and actions, so he'll come for you if he's interested.
Get his number or email and contact him 6 months after the break up.
The issue of course is that your boyfriend is family to this nice guy, and will not be terribly happy that you've moved on. You just want the boyfriend's interest to move on to someone else, so get it started by ending the relationship. Then give time for things to quiet down, THEN you can think about starting something with the cousin. Don't rush it.
Good luck.
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reader, TimmD +, writes (31 March 2010):
 There is no way to leave your boyfriend "in a good way". If you don't love him then it's just time to move on. Tell him your relationship isn't working and it's time to see other people. After that is done, then you can see if things will work with the cousin.
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