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writes:hi. i really don't know what to do anymore. i've benn fallin for my boyfriends brother harder and harder and now it's reached the point i can't stand the pain. ive been with my bf for a year now and i love him. at least im confortable with him. but the feelings for his brother are way stronger. a few months ago it seemed he felt the same way for me. we spoke constantly, made jokes,, and one time we got drunk and the looks he gave and the smile on his face said everything. now he barely speaks to me and doesn't look at me that way anymore. hes started dating someone and that makes feel so mad. i really don't understand what could be going through his mind cause i do believe he still feels the same way. im also thinking about ending things with muy bf cause its more than obvious that if it's possible for me to love his brother this much, it's wrong to continue seeing him. please help me. i really don't know how to handle this situation. i've tried to get him out of my system and i just can't. it's a very close family so he's always around. help help.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 April 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthanx, really. id o, i'm stuck. i feel like a real b** for being in this situation but also, i mean, is not like i chose to fall in love with him sometimes you just can't help it. i love my bf, y really do, that's what makes me feel sooo bad. he's my best friend. sometimes i think about ending things with him but i can't. i know i'd regret it forever. i just can't picture my life without him. and i also know, as one of you told me, that his brother's never gonna date me. i know. i just need to get him out of my system. for real. i just don't know how. i've tried avoiding him, avoid beeing at his house when he's around... but still, i can't. besides, he studies at my same school, so seeing him everyday just makes things worse. i really appreciate your answering me. it may seem awful from the otside, and i know i seem like a real bad person. but im really trying to make this right. i don't want anyone to get hurt. i really mean it when i say i love them.
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reader, yelloworse  +, writes (29 April 2008):
 It sounds like you are stuck - Please don't let your emotions over rule your sense of right and wrong. These two men will be brothers for ever, and will always have to live with the memory of hurt if you dump one for the other. If the boyfriend is not the right person for you, let him go and remove yourself from this situation~ There are 3.4 billion men in this world. Go find a new one.
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reader, sweetheart03 +, writes (29 April 2008):
His brother might like you put I promise he will never date you. For one it will hurt his brother so bad two his family is not gonna let you come between brothers!! They won't even like you anymore dating John the dating his brother Johnny?? No!!! If you guys tryed to keep it on the low it still wouldn't work cause your feelings will get hurt cause you can't be open and never will be able to say I love John. It sucks that you have these feelings cause I know your in love but you can't go for the brother. I don't even think he will get serious. Good luck but think about it before you act on it
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