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writes: I am in love with my boss, but I am engaged to someone else! My boss and I have worked very closely together for seven years. I have a deep love and admiration for him and he feels the same about me. Over the years there has been alot of flirting, sexual joking and backrubs, etc. but never even a kiss. He lives with someone and I live with my fiancee. Recently, he made some more obvious advances on me and we have been "playing" around, no sex yet. We both backed off and realized that we needed to think about what we were doing a little more thoroughly. I am so confused and afraid. I don't want to hurt my fiancee, nor do I want to ruin the relationship that my boss and I have, plus, I love my job, which I suppose is in part to my feelings for my boss, but I don't know if I can continue and take this further with him and I know I can't be without him. What do I do?
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 May 2006): The whole point of sharing this information with you guys is that I don't want to cheat, and haven't done so. People say Yes to marriage proposals all of the time, because they are caught up in the moment, because they don't want to hurt their partners feelings, and because they are in love with the ideal of marriage and being happy. It's naive to think that people are all bad, or that the era we live in is bad because we question ourselves and our commitments. It's human nature to do so. Doesn't make it right, or wrong, necessarily, just natural. And the fact that people reach out to others for advice and to help them figure out the social and moral boundaries shows that there is hope for all of us. By the way, I chose to continue to fight off the primal urges that have afflicted me in regards to my boss. I decided, in part from the input from you guys and a couple of my close friends and also from talking in depth with both guys about my feelings, that a couple of hours of ecstasy would not be worth losing my best friend and my soulmate. I have called off the wedding, for now. I appreciate all of your input. Good luck to the rest of you that grapple with these sorts of decisions.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 May 2006): Sounds like your boss means more to you than your fiance. I say break-up with your fiance and go for the boss.
*Please note for those Aunts and Uncles who frequent my answers, I am not in anyway encouraging this sort of behavior, but seems like her mental and physical libido has made up her mind. Seems like this cannot be avoided. Rather she break it off now, than highly possibly cheat on her fiance. Still don't understand how people can say "yes" to "Will you marry me?" and cheat. I hate living in this era of the timeline. Really. It highly disgusts me to no end.
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reader, Confuddled +, writes (11 May 2006):
 your position is very tough... if you really love your fiancee... then you and your boss should just keep a respected business level... but if you and your boss talk... and you ask him if it could lead anywhere... and your willing to give up your fiancee for your boss... then maybe give it a shot.. but do not do it unless you feel that it is right in your heart... only you know who you love... i would guess that your boss is more of a crush to relieve stress at work.. and when you get home your extatic to see your fiancee... think about who you really love... deep in your heart... really think... just listen to your heart and your head and do what YOU think you should do... i hope i helped you and good luck
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reader, Angel ron +, writes (11 May 2006):
 sounds like bad news to me for get it babe this is one in disiater in many get out of it now
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