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writes:Oh goodness, where do I start? So as the title states, I'm completely and honestly in love with my best friend. He and I have known each other since we were about 9 and there's nobody in this world that knows more about me than him. We're inseparable. We've lived together and have even slept in the same bed together for years. Throughout our entire friendship, his girlfriends have come and gone and I've been so stuck on him to even give anyone else a chance. (I hate myself for that, but what can I do?) We've never done anything with each other intimately, but I do know that he used to have a hard time keeping his hands off of me when he would think I was sleeping at night. Everyone says that our feelings for each other are obvious, but he'll never admit to anything. He's in the military now and still calls me every day and we talk for hours about nothing and everything. I've talked to some of his Navy friends, and they tell me that I'm the only girl he ever talks to (Which is weird, because he was a player at home.) and that he really likes me. I'm VERY skeptical when I hear these things because like I said, he won't admit to having those feelings for me. I've told him how I feel and he just says that he only sees me as a friend because we're just too much alike, but somehow my confessing my feelings doesn't turn him away or make him act weird around me. How can this honestly be? I hear the things he says from other people, he obsessively calls me, he tells me I'm the funniest person in the world and he doesn't know what he would do without me. Are these things that friends do? Or is there something more to this? I'm getting to the point where I need some sort of confirmation that he really doesn't see me that way or we need to get passed this whole "just friends" thing; because I'm having a hard time putting my life on hold for him if it's never going to go anywhere. Has anyone been in a similar situation? Can someone give an outsider's advice? I just don't know what else to do at this point!
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reader, the badluck clover +, writes (12 September 2009):
hi. I've been in a situation almost exactly like yours. but I was in his position. unfortunately I didn't do anything and lost her. I don't want to speak for him but its quite possible that its his feelings for you that prevent any kind of confession. he sees everything you two been through. how you been there every time he's been hurt or broke up with another girl. how you and him can just enjoy each others company. im a diesel mechanic for the army, and I know that you don't get too much to do on the down time when deployed. the fact that he makes time to talk with you is something in itself right there. now as far as something to say to him, everything you said in your question (if that's how you truly feel) sounds like the right thing. take it from me. from a male's perspective the girl who gets away hurts the most.
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reader, the_phoenic  +, writes (12 September 2009):
tell him that you love him
and that all the signs shows that he loves you too
and if he denied try to get him A LITTLE jeallous once
i believe that would be enough to get him to the point !!
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