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writes: Hi.Im in love with one of my best guy friend and i can't just let it go..........its been a long time that ive got feeling for him.Hes 24 and Im 19.I cant stop thinking about him.even i dream about him when i go to sleep........ alot of my friends believe that i should tell him but im scared it'll ruin the frienship between us.So please can someone tell me what to do??????
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 February 2006): just follow what im doin..ignore ur bestfriend.. completetly..honestly, it's killing me ryt now but i'd rather deal with this pain than being rejected..
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reader, happytochat  +, writes (16 December 2005):
This is always a tricky situation, and its often feared that the friendship might be ruined if the other person doesn't feel the same way. I think that if you 2 are 'best friends' and really close and haev a healhty relationship, then if he doesnt feel the same way, maintaing the frinedship should be easy.
I think you should tell him and for all you know he could be feeling the exact same way, and having the same fears! So take the risk. If you don't then you are risking a really good chance to be with someone in a relationship that you really care for.
Plan the right way to do it for you- whether that be on the phone, face to face, through a hand written letter, email or msn...whichever is best for you, the point is that you do it and get it out in the open of your relationship.
Just remember of all the great possibilities, thats why you should do it.
It might be hard and those fears will probably haunt you till the very last minute but, i think you just have to put up with them and do it.
And for fact that the people closest to you (your friends) say you should, suggest thats its probably a great idea, they know whats best for you and owuldnt tell you to do something if they thought you wouldnt cope.
Just make it clear that even if he doesnt feel the same way that you want to keep the friendship. He might be a little shy or something (depending on his personality) for a bit after he finds out but that will ease.
But remember he could very wel lfeel the same way!
Go on, let those feelings out, you will feel better and relieved and wont torture yourself with all the what ifs.
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