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writes:for the first time i am opening up my problem .. here it is i met a guy in my office and somehow i liked him at the beginning and slowly we became good friends and i came to know that he is married. then many a times i decided that i shud nt talk to him neither he shud. but the more i decide the more i started liking him and we both fell in love (note he mentioned many times that she is not happy with him due to xyz reasons and she is kind of over controlling him in everything starting from money to each and every phone calls) even few times when i met her also i observed that she is kind of rude and stubborn person and i stepped back but i cud understand his situation and his good heart also and she decided to leave him few times and because of him begging her not to leave only they are together it seems ... but then he said that he will come to me only after she leaves him without creating problems to anyone as she is not in normal mind set. i love him so much and i am bearing so much for him. he helped me a lotttttttttt in many things but we never crossed the limits (no physical relationship) i love him no matter what ... after so many years i found my love of my life but he is already married. i am just feeling happy whenever i am with him. he is differnt office now far from me but still my love for him never changed and i am waiting and willing to wait for him to come and take me with him.. i dont know whether i am doing the right thing but at the same time my heart always says that it is right whereas the brain is not
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reader, bestfriend +, writes (27 August 2009):
bestfriend is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you all for providing me a good advice. I will be working on it for sure .. thanks again !
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 August 2009): comming from a married woman whose husband is actually cheating on me with one of his co workers,never in my life did ithink he would do it to me.you see i was a co worker of his and he cheated on his ex wife with me,he eventually left her for me,because he got caught and she left him.let him go now before it gets even further,let me tell you i am so heart broken.my adult kids love him like a father and he has been a great husband and great provider,but i can't live my life like this.he does'nt know i know he is seeing this woman.i found her number in his jeans.he denied he knew whose it was,until of course i investigated it.i am a dam'n good wife.so i thought.karma can really kick you in the ass.let him go...
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 August 2009): I agree with the other posts, and having been in a similar situation, I understand your pain...but having waited years for a married man, and having come out the other side to finally meet someone amazing and.. *SINGLE* I need to tell you this: This man is not for you. He will not leave his wife for you. His wife is NOT the horrible person he makes her out to be. If he was going to be with you, he would be with you now. He enjoys having you on the side when he is not getting enough ___________ (fill in the blanks) or when his wife is being too _________ (more blanks to fill in). THe blanks can differ, but the stories are all the same. I know it is SO hard to be objective when your heart is so attached to someone, and you don't see things other people find obvious...but soon enough you will see what is going on with clarity. I hope that is sooner rather than later, and I hope this post helps to find that clarity. It is hard to hear, I know...but you already know in your heart what the answer is...Take care :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 August 2009): dear bestfriend.you may not want to hear this but this married man is not for you. you will be waiting until you are old and the best years are over. you may be his shoulder to cry on during his troubled marriage but this is all you are to him. he is not leaving his wife and it is selfish that you wait for him to end his marriage for you. please take a stand and get on with your life. tell him you do not want to know about his apparent marriage problems. cut the emotional ties with him and slowly move on with your own life. there are single men out there. a man that will not lead you on and not hold you back from leading your own unburdened life. please do not complicate your life any further with this man. he will take, take, take until there is nothing left. please do not sleep with him. for him it will just be sex, for you your love and emotions entangled here. just too much of drama here. this drama you can do without.take care.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 August 2009): If he loves you and wants to be with you - when his wife wanted to leave him he would not have stopped her as that was his chance to be with the" woman he loves". Wake up smell the coffee - you are the side dish and as long as you stay there he is happy. Forget him and move on - you are missing the opportuntity to be with someone that truely loves you and wants to be with you.
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