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writes: Im getting deeper and deeper into someone that i can NEVER HAVE. we were friends. then close friends. then we slept together. now we are best friendsand we talk to each other on the phone and see each other all the time.but the thing is im investing alot of time to this and i can feel myself falling deeper and deeper for him. but i can NEVER be with him. ever. and shouldnt have slept with him in the first place?Shall i cut ties with my best friend before I fall any deeper and it hurts more?or do i keep my best friend and wait for me to be hurt?please help
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reader, Tisha-1  +, writes (31 July 2008):
 Hi, it sounds like this is driving you a bit mad. May I remind you that in your original post you asked this question: "Shall i cut ties with my best friend before I fall any deeper and it hurts more?"
Then you get frustrated and upset with the advice given that suggests you do exactly that. But you were the one who put it on the table first. You're right, we don't understand, we're not in your shoes. But you did ask for the advice, and I guess unfortunately for you, people told you to cut ties.
I guess it all depends on how much more frustration and pain you can handle. It's all down to that. I feel a bit sorry for his wife, though, she's the innocent party in all this.
Good luck, you have to make your own choice, as you're really not interested in suggestions. Live an honorable life, with integrity, I think is the best way to go, personally.
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 July 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionNO. no one understands!
we ARE best friends. im one of the closest friends to him
and he to me.
why does no one understand this?
Im NOT a bad person. he's my best friend and has been for over a year. im NOT GOING TO LOSE my best friend. no matter how awful you think i am.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 July 2008): I know it won't be easy, but you must end your relationship with him. Because you already crossed the line by sleeping together, your friendship will never be the same. His best friend needs to be his wife, not you. When you find someone else and get married, you will have a true best friend. Have respect for yourself and his wife...completely end your friendship.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 July 2008): you and he owe his wife a heart-felt, sincere apology.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 July 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questioni know that nothing can happen with him but my question is should i remain best friends with him? i dont want to lose my best friend over this
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 July 2008): I think you answered your own question. Be honest with yourself. If this man is married, you have no future with him. You also can't trust him because he is cheating on his wife with you. My advice is to dump him and move on.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 July 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionhe's married :'(
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