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writes:I hate feeling this way, I'm in love and I HATE it...I think it's because my parents split up after 30 years together so it's drilled it into my head that nothing lasts and eventually everything will crash and burn. I hate to let my guard down and find it so difficult to express how I feel the guy I love well I feel as though I'm pushing him away. I didn't want to fall this deep but I have and I don't know what to do..
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 November 2008): I completely understand your fear to get close, and still have the feeling that it will only end. My parents got divorced when I was 20 and it took me a long time to trust someone enough and allow my heart to open up to him. HOwever, what I have learned is that the more I allow myself to open up to someone, and regardless of whether or not it lasts, it is such a rewarding feeling to love someone and to be loved at some point in return.
It might not always be that the person feels the same way for you as you to them...but when it does happen, it is rewarding and it is incredible. I am finally in a relationship that I think will last for a long time to come. There have been a few rough spots - primarily due to my lack of opening up - and even when I felt as though it would not last, I still felt good to know that I was capable of loving someone truly.
I guess what I am trying to say is that opening up is worth it. Sure, there is the potential for heartache, but at least you will have the realization that you are capable of loving someone truly. And although you are hesitant to allow yourself to accept these feelings for someone else, it can and will be worth it.
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reader, scythe  +, writes (18 November 2008):
 My parents have sort of drilled the "nothing lasts" into my head too which I hate. However, you are not your parents. You choose who you love and how long you love for. Don't let other people tell you that your relationships won't last. Go your own way.
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