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anonymous
writes:i realy need some advise on how i feel at the moment.i have a past history of depression for various things that happend in my life when i was younger which lead to becoming independant of my self at 16 and i was drinking alot. i did meet a guy tho who i fell pregnant with and when i was pregnant he started to become violent and smash up my house and on occasions beat me. when i had my son it all stoped we were very happy. when my son was about 8 month old itstarted again and not just when he drinks anymore, it isnt always realy bad but i have become depressed again and i dont want it to affect the way i am with my son as i have become moody and am always upset. my parter does not know im depressed because every time we have an argument and he hits me and bullys me. te next day he shows remors and crys like he is the victom and i just pretend its ok. but realy im fuming inside that i keep forgiving him, im such a push over with him and my friends and i hate it and dont no how to change...even when we have had a good day its all i can think about sometimes and i begin to argue with him for no reason. im scared to be on my own and things like bills are getting on top of me. im so depressed at how boring my life is i never have money for anything to treat my self. i never have free time from my son and i feel like i need a break. i dont no what to do with my self. someone please give me an answer. thankyou
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 July 2010): You have got to stop blaming yourself, this man is controlling you by his behaviour, you know this is a bad situation and you know it is wrong.
you need to think about the positive of being on your own you think you won't be able to cope but your wrong i am talking from experience i have been where you are and i went back to him time and time again because he is the father of my child and i thought i loved him, but it got worse and worse and i had to get out, i was like you i was dependent on him and he controlled me, i had no friends and i nearly lost my family through it, but now im away from him i have loads of friends and i feel closer to my family i get to have a social life and nice times because people will support you when you make the break from him. you will find who you are again and be a good mum as you are removing a bad infulence from your childs life believe me you can do it, you don't need to live in fear once that fear goes you will see how strong you are!
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 July 2010): Pack up, get your son, and get out. they never stop....I know. don't make excuses for him either, he should know hurting a woman is wrong. and your son will catch on to this behavior, and end up beating women too. if you can't do it for yourself, do it for your son. break the cycle. it won't stop if you don't....I bet my life on it...because I ALMOST LOST IT AT THE HANDS OF AN ANGRY MAN
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