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writes:Hi. This is really awkward, but I don't have anyone else to ask. I am 16. My step-brother is 17. We have always been close, and have been raised as brothers since we were small. We started fooling around sexually about two years ago. At first, it was pretty casual and we both continued to date girls. Things progressed and we were having sex with each other more and more often. It was satisfying, fun, and usually rushed because we never seemed to have much time. This last year, our parents have taken several weekend trips while we stayed home. It was awesome to have 2 or 3 days together without interruption. We'd spend most of our time together. We could sleep together in the same bed all night and not have to jump whenever we heard footsteps. We both really enjoyed being together.One of those nights while in bed with my brother, I said out loud "I'm in love with you" for some reason. I immediately regretted saying it and wished I could have taken it back. I held my breath hoping he was a sleep and didn't hear it. He wasn't, and he did. He made me repeat it. To my surprise, he told me he felt the same way. He'd wanted to tell me, but was afraid he'd scare me. He then kissed me with all the passion that must have been saved up from all the times we were together before.Well, our relationship has never been better and we really look forward to our parents' trips. I really think I love him. I think he feels the same. There is just as much passion, but he seems kinder and more gentle. We are completely comfortable with each other and the guilt is gone. He just told our parents that he wants to defer going to college in the fall so he can work, save money, and it would also be more economical for us to go to college together. He also told me that this way, we could room together for all 4 years instead of 2. We have discussed continuing our relationship after college.My question is: Does anyone know of these kind of relationships lasting the long term? Are we free to marry (where allowed), enter a civil union, domestic partnership (or whatever they will be called in four years) if we are not blood brothers? Thanks for any advice offered!
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reader, layinah  +, writes (16 June 2008):
as far as im concerned theres nuffin wrong wiv you 2 being together coz ur not blood.im with my stepbrother right now and were fetting married soon.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 June 2008): You're not a blood relative so I can only assume it's all cool for it too happen.Good luck for the future!!,,
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 June 2008): it sounds like you realy love each other thats wonderful i think you two have a love most people dont ever get to enjoy if your not blood brothers then the same laws apply that apply to any other gays dont let any of these jellous homophobes scare you enjoy your love it is the purest love their is even if he happend to be your half brother it would be ok your blood type doesent mater because you cant get pregnat so enjoy your presous gift and try to make it last a life time he is lucky to have you so close in his life and viseversa you dont have to tell anybody until you want to and when you do you wont be losing the ones who wont accept it they will be losing you two loving people aka their loss. good luck i wish there were more young people just like you two. ps. Ilove u 2. peace
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 June 2008): Hi Kid,
I tried to find some information relevant to you, but I don't really understand your laws, and it seems you have different laws according to different states. You really need better advice from somebody in your country, but I'm not sure where you will find it. I'm wishing the best for you, but I unfortunately I can't find the advice you need. Sorry.
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reader, prayerchangesthings +, writes (14 June 2008):
I feel different from everyone eles.. I think its not good.. Rather blood or step its not good..You were raised in the eye of being brother and sister and this is going to completly devastate your mom and dad. I'm praying for them.
Think about it!!
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reader, lexilou  +, writes (14 June 2008):
 If you have different mothers and fathers then there is absolutely nothing wrong with this. Some people may frown on it as you have been raised as 'brothers' but with no blood ties this happens a lot more then you think it does, you are not the only ones. There is nothing illegal about it and when you are older yes you can marry in the same way as any other male couple could. There is no reason for you to even tell people or the person marrying you that you are step brothers - unless you share either your mother or father as one of your parents but it doesnt sound like you do. THe backgound as step brothers is your business and nobody elses
I think it is wonderful that you love each other and I hope when the time comes to tell your family they will be understanding towards you. I wish you all the luck for the future. x
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reader, LaydeeOfSorrows  +, writes (14 June 2008):
 I think since you are not blood related, it should be allowed.
It's great that you have fallen in love, and hopefully all goes well for you.
xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 June 2008): Your in a very difficult position. Not only are you stepbrothers, but you have been brought up together since you were young. I'm not sure about the laws in your country, but I have a feeling that you are seen as brothers and your union is forbidden.
I know you probably love one another, and feel comfortable and have a level of understanding that I can only dream of. But your parents, freinds and family will be totally devastated. This will hurt everybody very deeply and I fear that you will find that they can never accept this. I don't know what your going to do.
You can either give up your sexual relationship and go on being brothers, or move away and cut contact with anyone that knows you and start again as a "normal" homosexual couple.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 June 2008): If you are step brothers and both have different parents then you are not biologically related so in that respect it would be fine, however your family may find it difficult. However if it's what you both want then go for it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 June 2008): To many people, sexual relations between any form of family (married-into family or blood relatives) is still considered inscest and is very frowned apon. I do not imagine that you could enter civil union together, but I am not for sure.
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