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female
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51-59,
anonymous
writes:I am in a relationship for a long time (many years). But a few years ago I met someone that I like very much and have strong feelings for. He is also in a relationship and lives with his girlfriend for many years. He is sometimes talkative and shares his life with me. Other times he's almost cold and distant. He is usually a good listener when I need someone. We can laugh together. Obviously I am having trouble in my own relationship because I am going outside of it for friendship and some emotional balance. I often think of this "someone" when things are very bad with my boyfriend. We seem to have similar personalities and enjoy the same things. There is also another woman competing for his affections. He "seems" more friendly with her, but she is obsessive and won't leave him alone. He says he is just being patient with her. I don't know exactly what they talk about, but I get a bit jealous. He also seems to be moody, or maybe shows me his real self because I 'know' him and he doesn't have to put on a show for me. I am very confused. Does he like me - is there any interest in something more? One of us will have to make the next move to see if it's worth coming away from our current relationships. We were at a party not too long ago and he kissed me. It was quick and sweet, but he could have kissed my cheek! Any advice would be appreciated. I am even starting to feel insecure about our friendship and I don't what that to happen. Help and Thanks!
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reader, eddie  +, writes (23 July 2008):
 You don't have a friendship. You don't want to be his buddy. You want to be his lover. Do not confuse that with being friends. That is what you call it so you can justify your actions. You are poking your nose where it doesn't belong. Do things the proper way. If you want to be single and date again, end your relationship with your boyfriend. Why do you desire to complicate things even more than they already are? Instead of fixing your relaionship, you're wasting your time focusing on something you should be as far from as possible.
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