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female
age
36-40,
anonymous
writes: About 4 years ago I was dating this guy that I was head over heels for. Unfortunatly we ended up breaking up. We are now both in new relationships but I miss him. I still have strong feelings for him and still love him. I love my boyfriend now but my ex was so special to me. Last night I went to his house to talk and we ended up kissing. (Not a real big deal) and all the feelings for him came back. He said he doesnt want to mess up either of our relationships with who we are with now but I am so in love with him and my heart aches because I cant have him. What should I do?
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 December 2006): First off, don't make excuses...kissing is a big deal as it is cheating.
Why was it broken off and who made the decision? I am guessing he was the one and that is why you don't have closure.
He states straight ou in in guy lingo(I'll do the translation) You are a good lay and I miss that about you so...let's just stick to having sex as I want the excitement of having no commitment to you and cheating on my unsuspecting GF.
Can you truly be happy with this arrangement? Is that love?
I'll tell you the answers to both; NO.
You both make a decision NOW. You are commited to your parnters and stop from seeing one another or talking as it is a temptation you both want to give into so dummy up.
OR
You both call it off with your partners and just enjoy the sex with no strings attached.
Decide. That's what you need to do.
Be honorable in your decision.
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