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writes: I met my girlfriend over a year ago. We broke up about two times. But got back together. Its a long distance relationship, but I go too see her when I can. Only 3 hour train ride away. I got her a ring and told her I love her. She said it back. We was so in love with each other. Then I didn't see her for ages, I started to feel lonely. I ended up kissing another girl who lives closer. But I felt terrible for it. How could I do that to the girl I love? Anyway, my girfriend found out and decided to give me a last chance. I went to see her recently. I keep telling her I love her, but I'm not getting it back anymore. Do you think she still wants me and loves me? (she still has the ring I gave her) We didn't kiss when I seen her recently, until I kissed her before I came home. But she did hold my hand with her making the move, not me. Shes not talking to me much either. Will this go eventually? I love her so much!
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reader, Toria +, writes (16 October 2006):
 You betrayed her trust and made her feel pretty bad at the fact you cheated on her, you are lucky she has given you a second chance but if you really want this relationship you are going to have to work hard at proving to her how you feel about her and how much you want her and the relationship also proving this slip up won't be happening again.
Long distance relationships can work but the fear in your mind about the other person cheating on you is normally greater therefore more need to reassure and make sure they really know you won't do it.
Good luck :o)
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reader, Astrid  +, writes (16 October 2006):
 I think you may consider that maybe distance is affecting your relationship it is hard to be alone in a different town you should have shown more commitment now try a move towards more affectionate behaviour it is not always her who has to kiss you if she doesn't show will to then you should talk about it I acted like her when I was with a boy I cared but I felt bad abut him telling me he was seing around other girls while on holidays or arriving late to appointments and things alike meybe she feels down as I did but if you show commitment and help communication flow and give her time things will solve or at least clear outgood luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 October 2006): I think you can turn things around if you show that you are completely and utterly dedicated to her, and her only. Make an effort to speak to her more, see her more, and never ever, infer that you are interested in anyone else. We like to feel the most important person in our partners life. If we find out they did something intimate (yes - kissing is VERY intimate - I hope you don't make this terrible mistake again David!!) it destroys an element of the trust and intimacy in a relationship.
You can recover from this. But you must put it in the past, and show it to be in the past by your change in attitute towards her. You must also ask yourself - how could you really end up kissing another girl just because you were "lonely" - that is a pathetic excuse for kising a girl; it really is. You need to learn why, in order not to repeat it. How would you feel, David, if your girlfriend said she slept with her male mate because she was missing you and felt lonely? All your answers and solutions can be found in feeling how you would feel in this situation.
Good luck David! I am sure you can turn this around - if you can show you do truely love her!
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 October 2006): I think you can turn things around if you show that you are completely and utterly dedicated to her, and her only. Make an effort to speak to her more, see her more, and never ever, infer that you are interested in anyone else. We like to feel the most important person in our partners life. If we find out they did something intimate (yes - kissing is VERY intimate - I hope you don't make this terrible mistake again David!!) it destroys an element of the trust and intimacy in a relationship.
You can recover from this. But you must put it in the past, and show it to be in the past by your change in attitute towards her. You must also ask yourself - how could you really end up kissing another girl just because you were "lonely" - that is a pathetic excuse for kising a girl; it really is. You need to learn why, in order not to repeat it. How would you feel, David, if your girlfriend said she slept with her male mate because she was missing you and felt lonely? All your answers and solutions can be found in feeling how you would feel in this situation.
Good luck David! I am sure you can turn this around - if you can show you do truely love her!
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