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female
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36-40,
anonymous
writes:i'm in a really big pickle right now and i need some serious help before everything comes crashing down.i had been with my ex for two years before we broke up. we broke up about two weeks ago because i caught her having exchanged phone numbers with someone else and they started contacting one another. i had caught her cheating in the past, as well, so this was not the first incident. that being said, we broke up and stopped talking for a couple of weeks, and in the meantime, i met someone else who i actually connected with. it was very unexpected. then i heard from my ex. she texted me the other day asking if i wanted to come over and talk. in a moment of weakness, i went over there. we both were completely honest with one another about everything that'd been going on in our lives up til that point. i filled her in on my new interest, and she admitted she'd been seeing someone (not the person she'd exchanged numbers with). she eventually broke down and cried admitting how she could see her life with me but that she felt like she was too young to really be capable of settling down yet, and that's why she did the things she did. i'm 27 and she's 22, so there is an emotional difference there. i'm nowhere near the same person now then i was when i was 22, so i can somewhat relate. anyway, she said she can't picture her life without me, and how she loves me. i told her i love her too, but that we can't force a committed relationship if it's not there to be had. we cried somemore and once we finished talking we spent some quality time together, playing a board game (we're goofy) and drinking a beer. it felt so natural, and before i knew it, we wound up in bed and had sex. oops.now, a few days later, her and i are still talking to one another and sleeping together, but still seeing the other people we've been talking to. there's no official committment in our new relationships as we've both just met these other people, and no committment in our relationship either. but now it's extremely confusing and i don't know what the hell to think. i feel like it's a disaster waiting to happen but i don't know what to do about it. right now, i'm enjoying seeing my ex and being with her, but i'm also enjoying getting to know this new girl and i don't want to miss that opportunity either. FYI, this new girl also knows my ex is still in the picture, so i'm not lying to her. please help me. lol. i need it!
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