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writes:August 2nd 2008, I met a 24 year old man at my church as he came to preach/sing. (my EDWARD)NOTHING HAPPENED, just began to speak as friends over myspace and such. (he lives in FL and me In MD)Then he came a second time in November 24th or so, to act in a church play with me.Of course i ended up doing him makeup for the part and we clicked then more. And switched numbers for once.we began talking a lot then one January 5th he came to surprise me and all romantically to my house...and used my family to come up to my room one by one to read me letters then asked me out and if yes, to go downstairs.I said yes. we kept talking, he visited me for Valentines day.love was in the air.We got engaged in June 27th 2009 (me 17 years and him 25)everything was great.. God even spoke to us stating that we were meant to be.till NOVEMBER 2009. (me 18 years)(everything began changing when he put that ring on my finger. He began being fussy about everything, acting so old and mean... strong choleric character)I went for a month (stayed at familys) to FL, so that wee could look at wedding places, he began changing on me,, we began arguing a lot, even before November...then thanksgiving 09... he canceled it all and broke up with me.without reason.. JUST as BELLE and EDWARD!!!!!!!!left.i got depressed and nothing could change the fact that i was broken hearted and my life was down the drain... when it comes to relationships.I blocked every guy .....till one 8.25.10a man i met .... wonderful man of God just like my ex... he came and surprised visit me (he lives in NY) this Thanksgiving 2010........ and it was great... to have him in person :)My jacob.. the one who came to heal my scars.then he left back home.then.1.MY family didnt believe he was the one for me.2. An aunt told me into my eyes that he wasnt the one. that my ex wants to marry me.3. I spoke to my ex and he wants to be with me.~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~WAIT!!!!!!!!what do i want!??????? what about that!???What about the fact that i had an inconsiderate exfiance who didnt know what he wanted and broke up w. me more than woooooo times!???who hurt me.who that after he broke it all off, i fought for him half a year and was even going to go see him and he said no!???????/What about this new guy being so respectful, even as friends coming to spend time w. me.. on thanksgiving.. and being totally sweet!????????what about what BELLE WANTS~???Yes, its always been Edward.... for ofcourse its supposedly destined..yet...........destiny's change on our free willed actions.anything ladies?? men!?????????????
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 December 2010): Honey, first of all twilight is not a good book by which to live your life. second, if a guy loves you, really loves you, he doesnt leave you. third, at 17 dont even start to think about getting married for at least a couple of years, however much you think you want to. i dont mean for that to sound patronising, but honestly its true. maybe what you need to do is just relax a bit, keep seeing the guy you like now, and id definately start trying to have a relationship with someone who wasnt so long distance. most importantly your young, dont worry so much about finding the one right this very second, he will come eventually and when he does youll know right away, trust me.
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reader, BettyBoup  +, writes (1 December 2010):
 I think you are getting a little carried away with fantasy and the idea of destiny. Destiny is something made up by people to find meaning in the random events of their lives. What happens in life is a mixture of human intention and coincidence. Nothing is "meant to be" unless you believe it is.
So what do you believe?
I know you just used the Belle, Edward analogy to illustrate your situaion, but take that away and look at YOUR situation for what it is. By compairing it to a story you may skew your own perspective of events.
I think this article might help you http://www.dearcupid.org/question/women-actions-speak-louder-than-words.html
Ok so the first guy was your first love. He was very romantic and wanted to marry you. But then he dumped you out of the blue after changing and not being nice to you. Has he ever given you a reason why he did this? Do you know why? What would happen if you got back together, would he go back to being the cold and mean man he changed to? Could you be sure you could trust him not to hurt you or leave you again?
What about the guy you love now? He sounds like a genuinly nice guy.
What do you do? Only you can decide. You cannot know for certain how things will pan out. Either guy could be genuine and be a really good long term partner. You ex could be truely sorry and determined to make it work. Or on the other hand the same thing could happen again or the new guy could turn out to not be so perfect.
You have to take a chance and go with what you think is the right decision. Who do you want to be with most of all?
Good luck.
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