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writes:Ok hi guys i need some help here's my story....Here's me a skater kid who loves to party and being with alot of girls and drinking and drugs. And here she is prom queen, prettiest girl in school, and ms.goodie 2shoes. now at my school im known as the sweet talker but this girl is way out of my league. When we started talking we just hit it off. we hung out all the time we were always laughing and having fun. I stopped doing drugs and drinking for her i started going to church andi tried in school. I fell in love with this girl. She was everything to me. And then i became to obssesive and possesive. So se left me. For awhile i thought about suicide cause i had never been so in love or even felt that good about anything. So thats the past.....Now we started talking again. And its going great. But here's the thing. I'm a junior in high school and she is a senior. she leaves for college in chicago while im stuck in minnesota. i love her to death but do i hold on for hope. I dont know if i have enough time to get her to love me again. What if i don't. I don't know if i can love someone like that again. Ifeel worthless without this girl. I keep telling her im different and that ive changed but its not working fast enough i need her now! What do i do? please help me! This is the love of my life and im scared of loosing her and what will happen to me when i watch her get on that plane and leave. I'm scared for myself. do i follow her to chicago or loose the thing i care, love, cherish the most in life. And to give you a sense of wht this girl is like i'll paint a pretty picture for you. long reddish-brown hair with the biggest and prettiest brown eyes you have ever seen. A smile that warms your soul and makes you feel safe. A laugh that makes you wanna just give her a kiss on the cheek cause of how cute it is. the curse of curves is her's. she is gorgeous beyond belief. think of a young reddish- brown haired megan fox. She gives me butterflies when she walks towards me. i get weak in the knees when she speaks my name. She makes me feel like im the luckiest guy in the world and nothing can touch me. I'm sorry this is so long but i really need help with this. all the advice anyone has is much apprciated.Follow her to chicago or Try to give up the girl of my dreams :.....(
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reader, LoveStruckTeen2010 +, writes (30 June 2009):
LoveStruckTeen2010 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you all those who replied sorry this took so long to reply but my computer broke. So here's an update on my situation. After I posted this I found she had a thing with this other kid. I flipped out and said how could you do this after we just started working again. Then she stopped talking to me for awhile. Then she texted me one day I was so happy! We started talking again but she never actually wanted to hang out cause I think she thought I was a little edgy. but then over the last 2 days it has been picture perfect something straight out of a love story. she picked me up out of the blue we hung out and from no where she kissed me SHE KISSED ME NOT ME KISSING HER SHE KISSED ME!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Now we're going to a movie and even though she is leaving in a little bit I have found a new spark of hope...... and to those people who said don't hurt yourself, I'm sorry I tried but I started to cut and stuff I couldn't deal with the pain in any other way it just hurt way to much. but I've recently quit marijuana and I feel great about it please keep me in your prayers -JordanMod note: email address removed.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 May 2009): Please don't hurt yourself over this, no matter which direction it goes. You have demonstrated that you are capable of deep, deep love. That has more to do with you than it does with her. Yes, she sounds lovely and wonderful, but the fact that you are able to access those feelings for her means that you will be able to access those feelings again for someone else if this does not work out. You need to stick around and find that out for yourself. Trust me, you are too young to know what great love lies ahead of you in your life. She did not create those feelings in you, she only triggered them. Those feelings are part of YOU, they came from YOU. I know it's hard to believe that you will ever feel this way about anyone again. I think EVERYONE has felt that way at 16 or 17, I know I did, but we were ALL WRONG!! Those of us who stuck around to find out, figured out that the pain eventually went away (THANK GOD!), our hearts healed and we could learn from past experiences, change and have different more adult relationships as we got older. As you get older and have more experiences and build a life and gain more confidence in yourself, you can also let go of that possessive side of yourself that can damage relationships. I wish you all the best and am saying a little prayer that you choose to stay on the planet regardless of how this goes. If you need help getting through it, it might be a good idea to see a school counselor or get into some short term therapy for some adult guidance and perspective through this difficult time. I'll be thinking about you!
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 May 2009): Ah, you got the case of the loves, baaa-d. It's great. And painful. And normal. It's all those male hormones: This is true (teenage) love, at its best, and its worst. To wit, if any girl ever wonders whether a guy loves her at this age, this is how it looks, in all it's naked, beautiful, ugly glory:) Otherwise, he's just getting his rocks off. And it doesn't happen all the time. Maybe once or twice really in your (young) life-time. Here's the skinny: Women like confident, funny, stable, ambitious, successful men. My recommendation to you: Start making a life plan for yourself. Say, I want to go to college, I will be successful, I have goals. Start acting more maturely/responsibly. Dress more appropriately (you don't have to dress in a suit, but you know what I mean... make her Mom and Dad comfortable with you! Bring the Mom flowers if/when you are invited over:)). No drugs, no boozing drunkeness (... though having fun is certainly a big OK):)!! You know the difference. Warning: Most relationships in high school end at some point. But if you have a life plan, with good goals, that lasts a lifetime. Good luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 May 2009): well firstly..
i know it sounds silly but show her that question,,
that is the sweetest thing i have ever read and would make any girl feel loved like more than anything you could imagine.
honestly knowing that, would stop me from moving even a street away :)
your love sounds true and strong..
and if it is ment to be it will happen..
hope i helped even just a tad
xx
take care&&good luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 May 2009): 'girl. I keep telling her im different and that ive changed but its not working '
Well obviously ifyou keep on telling her that you're different now and that you've changed, that makes you seem pushy and desperately clingy. So you should stop that! as that's the opposite effect what you want
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