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writes:Here is my problem, there is this girl i was seeing and really care about and want to be with, because it is the happiest i have been in my life. She has told me the same thing about her life.She recently broke up with her boyfriend about 2 months ago and we would have been together a month come the 22nd. Recently he decided that he wanted to work on things and has her second guessing, if she should stay with me or to work things out with him.The reason she broke up with him is due to the fact he wasn't managing his money right and she would have to pay his bills, while he spent all his money on drugs.It gets more complicated because she works with him and everyone at work keeps putting their 2 cents in as well as her room mate going back and telling him what is going on at the apartment.I want to work through this with her but at the same time it is hard on me because with her talking with him we don't see each other as much as we did and she keeps changing her mind about who she is choosing. I know I need to give her some space which will be hard but I know he is not going to and I really don't want to loose her.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 April 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionOk here is where i stand now. I called her today and she didn't anwser any of my calls or text but she didi call me back later on in the evening and we talked for a little bit but not that long cause I had school and I asked her if i still had a chance and she said "maybe" and the way she said it made it sound she knows but aint ready to tell yet and sounded upbeat when she said it, Could this be good news or am I reading too much into this or could she possibly be toying with me.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 April 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionOne thing I have to mention is that they have a long history because they went to school togeather and I know that is part of the reason for her wanting to work things out with him. Everyone who knows him is also telling him that he has changed but the thing I know is that no one ever really changes all that much. It may be fine for a while but I know that it will go back to the way it used to be. I tried talking to her and helping her through this and it feels like I have done nothing but push her away which was never my intention I was only trying to help her and be with her. I am now wondering if I have ruined things for good or if I still have a chance of being with her. I know that is one of my downfalls is that when I want something as bad as I want to be with her I give it my all without realizing that I may only be pushing them farther from me and not keeping them close to me. It that old saying if you put 110% into what you do you will be rewarded, things like this make me really wonder how true that is. Any advice anyone can give me on either one of these problems would be greatly appreciated. I am really at a lost as to what I need to do to get her back. I know I havent known her for long but everything clicked and now I care about her and don't want to loose her.
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