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writes:Dear Cupid,I have a rather embarassing question to ask. On friday night my husband and I had sex that seemed to last a long time, maybe over an hour or more. We did have foreplay so when we went to have intercourse I would be ready. Well anyways, we did it for a while till I became dry... we did get the lube but again the sex lasted a long time for him. It was rather vigourous but still enjoyable. Afterwards I told him that my inner legs were a bit sore, but all was fine. Saturday came and went and we did not engage in any sexual activities. Sunday morning came and he wanted to have an encounter. It was at this point that I found myself feeling in pain when he entered me. The pain seemed to be more internal than external. I told him it was sore. He tried to avoid the area and we still continued. I wanted to know if maybe he banged into my cervix or something... maybe even caused a bruise?? This has never happened before. I noticed a bit of cramping but nothing that I couldn't handle without meds. I have no unusual discharge or smell, everything seems normal that way, except some soreness inside. Again the pain seems to be more towards the back of my lady parts. We have been married for a long time and are both very much manogomous, we don't use condoms as I am on the pill. Could someone please tell me that I am not the only one who has had this problem, and when should I expect to heal up? Should I go to the doctor? I decided to refrain form any sex for at least a week till I feel better. Still I am a bit scared to find out if the pain will still be there. Please help!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 March 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionOkay so I called a sexual health hotline in my area and informed the the Lady what had happened. She said that it is not uncommon for this to have happened since the act was a vigorous one and dryness was involved. She said that I could have got torn or bruised and that I should just wait it out, unless the pain continues for more than a few days to see the doctor. I am relieved a bit but still a bit bummed out that this even happened. It is a first for me since we have been together for a long time and have never had this happen before. So I guess I will be okay and can resume sexual activities in a week or so.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 March 2011): Hi there,
Don't freak out. This exact same thing happened to me! I was freaking and thinking I had an STD, UTI, or yeast infection but that was not the case. I went to the doctor's (which I would recommend you do anyway to be safe) but they confirmed nothing was wrong. I was literally feeling a burning sensation when he entered me. I guess it can happen though. Basically my doctor said, sometimes our body reacts differently to sex in different situations. My soreness was coming from the back as well of my vagina, almost as if I had hemroids? So not the case. But, because we are woman we tend to need more foreplay to get lubricated...add more of that to your routine. Also, alot of my problem is not drinking enough water daily. THIS is huge in the lubrication process...you don't realize that. Hope this helps.
GOODLUCK! don't fret!
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 March 2011): Of course you're not the only one. There could be a number of reasons, more than likely he was a bit too rough with you and may have caused a bit of bruising. I doubt it's anything serious, more than likely just soreness that will heal after a week or so.
Also, because you had sex for quite a period of time, you could have lost lubrication and you might have friction burn (ouch) or caused tiny cuts down there. Either way, i would refrain from having sex until the pain has gone and if it's still there after a week then go and see your doctor in case you have torn something.
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (28 March 2011):
 Im not familiar with this exact problem, although I do know that rough sex can cause "bruises" internally, although more commonly at the entrance.
In these cases, it is harmless, it just takes you a couple of weeks to recover. I would advice you to wait two weeks with having sex. Having sex too early will only prolong the healing process and cause you more pain.
If the pain has not gone away after you have waited two weeks with no intercourse you should consult your doctor or gynecologist, although most likely they will tell you you need to wait longer and take it slow when it comes to intercourse to begin with.
I had a problem with pain upon entering (the pain was around the opening), and the sex hadn't been particularly rough, but something must have happened without me noticing. At first I waited one week with sex, but it still hurt when he entered me. Then I waited two weeks and was fine.
This is not dangerous, just unpleasant. You will be fine again in no time.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 March 2011): I would definitely get checked out by your doctor - its not worth ignoring the pain. Put your mind at ease.
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