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writes:Hey! So, my little sister is 4. I'm 13. She is always messing with me and giving me dirty looks and hurting me (most common injuries, scratches, pinches, hard kicks, suffocation (she sits on my face.), hair pulling), she calls me stupid and lots of mean stuff. To make her stop i typically threaten her with telling mom. And give the occasional sarcastic remark. But how come when I'm bruised, bleeding, or in any kind of pain, I get in trouble for standing up for myself. And she gets apologized to by both my parents. It is so unfair, and I try to explain this to my parents, but they say that it's not true, and that I always get what I want. So really, they are the ones saying untrue things. Can you please help me. Please? Reply to this Question
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reader, sammi star  +, writes (10 July 2012):
 At 4 years old she should be outgrowing these toddler tantrums and your parents shouldn't be allowing her to continue behaving like this.
As for everybody saying 'she's only 4 she can't hurt you that much' I completely understand that she can! My sister is 7 years younger than me and would pinch and pull my hair etc. Yes, I probably could have stopped her as could you but I'm sure you're probably concerned about using too much force with her and hurting her.
I suggest you pick a time to talk to your parents when everything's calm and your sister isn't around. Don't kick off just be mature about it and ask that they allow you the chance to explain how you feel.
I agree with immortal princess that spending some time with her might be a good idea. Have fun and be silly together, set her a good example. She will look up to you.
A good thing to remember is although she might be annoying the hell out of you now, one day you'll both grow up and there's no better best friend than a sister!
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reader, ImmortalPrincess +, writes (10 July 2012):
 It sounds to me like she is just wanting some attention from her big sister. Maybe other methods have failed, so this is the only way she knows how to get it.
Try spending some sister time with her, teach her things, read to her.....play with her. You're in a position to be a positive influence on her, make it count. As she gets older, she is going to look up to you. There is no reason why the two of you can't be close.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 July 2012): That is terrible. Your sister is 4! A 4yr old should not be hitting, pinching, kicking or scratching! And she should not have a potty mouth at such a young age. If my child was doing that they would be reprimanded and put in time out. The sarcasm from you should stop. She already has a temper and you are just feeding into her anger when using sarcasm. Since your parents arent helping, you need to be the one to sit her down and tell her that screaming, hitting, kicking using foul language is not the way you interact with people. Tell her to use her words and ask her why shes mad. Try to understand her side and why she does those things. Shes also 4 so she may not even know why. Tell her every day she uses her words and doesnt act out you will play a game with her, watch tv with her, do something rewarding with her. If she hits you or uses foul language, tell her thats not right and you dont want around that. If she cant be nice no time with you. Set an example for your sister to follow.
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reader, deirdre  +, writes (10 July 2012):
try to explain this calmly to your parents and if it doesnt work then give her a slap on the arm. it doesnt sound nice but it will be the only way to stop her becoming a bully, as it could spread to her bullying other kids in school etc.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 July 2012): The answer to your question is that because she's only four. It's hard for me to believe that a four year old could give you bruises but the easy thing to do is to stop her physically. When she's about to hit you or scratch you, grab her arms so she can't, and firmly tell her "don't hit me" etc. Whenever she does/says something wrong, firmly tell her that it's wrong. Slightly raise your voice and look very serious. And when you need a break from your sister, go to your room and don't let her in. Don't let her sit on your face! Why would you let that happen in the first place? Simply push her off to the side when she does that and get up. And tell her "NO."
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