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writes:i am 18 going on 19 and have this guy we're engaged and i dont know what to do. i have committed myself to him at such a young age. we fight sometime about really stupid stuff. i just want to know what should i do continue the relationship or end it because i do love very much but not if we are going to fight all the time
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 August 2008): I am 33 years old. I currently dating a married man and he is 53 years old. I didnt know that he is married until i found it my self and he keep on denying it until he make the confession when we meet for the 3rd time (Long distance relationship). I been wasting my time for the past 3 years to be with him and I regret it very much. I dont want to ended live alone and lonely, and I started to go out for a date with other man. The things is, when ever i go out for a first date, I never show interest to those guy coz my mind still with my boyfriend and i been trying hard for it. I hate broken heart and its really painful. I also been praying hard for it and its seem like doesnt work no where. My boyfriend is so nice and that why i am useless without him. I know i have done very wrong in this, but it is hard to go away from him now. And I also depress that both my male and female friends are getting married and I still alone...
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 August 2008): i know how you feel i met my husband when i was 16 and married him as soon as i turned 18 now i am 24 still married but unsure i made the right choice i wish i had waited you will regret getting married too fast take some time if you two love each other you will know when the time is right
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reader, Country Woman  +, writes (7 August 2008):
 Sweetheart you have said it yourself you are still only 18 and just about to turn 19, it is very young to be engaged and believe me when I heard that my 18 year old niece was getting engaged I was like "what" but she assured me that she knew what she was doing but they were going to wait for about 4 years as her fiance was going to university and she already has a job after going to 6th form college for 2 years.
I think that what you need to do is give yourself time, all couples argue from time to time as this is normal. However, being married and living together is a whole other ball game as you spend a lot more time together so I would say don't get married until you have spent some time under the same roof together so to speak a little like a trial run. However they do say that the first year of marriage or a relationship can be the hardest as you are still discovering things about each other.
You love each other and that is great but just take things at your pace and tell him you want a long engagement as you don't feel ready to get married just yet and want to spend time together without that added pressure right now.
Do you both work?
You could always say how you want to save for your wedding and getting a place of your own as that takes time and you don't want to start life on a shoe string as it makes it so much harder believe me. This will give you the time you need to get to know each other before taking a very important step into marriage.
How do your parents or his view it all right now?
Let us know how you get on OK.
BFN
Country Woman
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 August 2008): hey hun.
its sounds like your a bit young to be getting married but here is what i think...
you are obviously truely in love to of got engaged in the first place so its probely just cold feet. getting a bit nervous about how fast things are going. dont do anything you dont want to... if it turns out you dont want to get married then just talk to your fiance' and let him know how much you love him but that you think its to soon. good luck. and i hope you live happily together xxx
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