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female
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30-35,
anonymous
writes:i have been seeing a married man for 5 months who is separated from his wife but not divorced. he has kids with her though. he says he is in love with me but i find the situation tricky because his wife was my friend. what do i do? Do i run? I am in love with him.
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reader, LLindy87  +, writes (15 November 2010):
 you stop the affair, come clean to your friend and expect to stop talking to both of them.
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reader, janniepeg  +, writes (15 November 2010):
 Find out why they were separated and if they are starting the divorce soon, who has child custody, how often they visit, etc. Does separation mean having a separation agreement signed, or is it a brief thing, a need of space, a time to think and sort things out? Is he staying married in case he can't find that special someone? Are you a distraction to his problems or a motivation for him to man up? A man could always make himself sound like the victim. In fact you don't need to talk to him until he gets a divorce. I don't find an excuse of not divorcing and then falling in love with someone else except when the spouse ran out of the country and couldn't be found, which would slow down the process up to one year. It is too soon to fall in love without knowing the direction of this but it's too late to change what happened between you two. His wife was your friend, does that mean you can't talk to her anymore? Were you the reason why you can't be friends anymore?
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