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writes:My fiance' and I had not been really getting along and pretty much things were going down the toilet for the past month. She left for a week to spend time with one of her girlfriends that she hasn't seen in a while. While on the trip they all go out have drinks, comes back to the girlfriends house and unloads to her all about the trouble we've been having. Meanwhile, her girlfriends husband has a friend over for drinks. Long story short, my fiance' goes to bed, this guy goes over and starts kissing on her, then kisses her on the mouth, she doesn't pull away initially but then tells him to stop, he does, end of story. As soon as she get's back she tells me what happens, and we have decided that our relationship is worth saving. We did some very good talking and decided that the issues we have with one another are fixable, we just need to comminicate better. However I'm having a difficult time getting past the visual of her being kissed by another man. Please help!!!!
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reader, Manya +, writes (6 August 2007):
It actually doesn't sound too bad. a.) she told you about it, so it bothered her, too. b.) he initiated it and took advantage of her feeling vulnerable. I know the feeling of trying to get past the visual on this kind of thing and allI can say is to put it behind you by overlaying it with many, many good moments between the two of you. Plan a super-romantic evening and some fun outingsand when you remember the joy of your being together, what led you to becomeengaged in the first case, this scene will slowly vanish into the background,and after your tenth wedding anniversay, maybe could even become a joke.Well, for now it's painful, but as i said, it's not too bad!Best of luck and hope that you and your fiance have a fantastic wedding!Manya
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reader, leonard j.Douglas  +, writes (6 August 2007):
Long ago in a far off land, there lived a king by the name of "Distrust". He was a very sad king who never found a moment of peace within his heart. And sad to say all of his subjects also became "Distrustful" of each other. To make the story short. The kingdom was't conquered by forces from without, but was conquered by the "Distrust" within the inner kingdoms of many minds.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 August 2007): Okay, I think it's really sweet that you are having a difficult time getting over this, because it shows that you really care about her. And I DEFINITELY think that your relationship is worth saving because she told you about it as soon as she arrived back. I think you need to forget about this, and concentrate on making her happy!
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