A
female
age
36-40,
*oops
writes:Dear CupidI had on and off fling with a bloke for a period of 2 and a half years. During this time he was verbally abusive and generally undermined me. The most recent time was 6 months ago--at this point he told me I was ridiculously stupid for falling in love with him as he wasn't out for anything serious. He had said he loved me and wanted to be with me properly, his friends had echoed this sentiment, so naturally I felt a bit betrayed and used.Since then we have only spoken irregularly over instant messenger, with me doing the main part of the conversation and him very rarely answering me. I have tried to completely cut him out of my life many times as I know I need him out of it. But cant seem to do it. Every time I ask for answers as to why he has treated me so badly, I just get laughed at.I want to completely remove him from my life, but feel I can't move on with him not knowing how bad he made me feel, but trying to tell him achieves nothing. He only makes me feel insecure and he belittles me.He comes into my place of work regularly and completely blanks me. I need to be able to not feel anxious and irritated when he does. I'm in a new relationship now and feel happy with it but cant seem to let go of my past. Can anyone help?
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reader, Ask_HanBan +, writes (24 June 2007):
 focous ur energy on ur new man! if ur ex treats u badly verbally and mentally then remove him by blocking him if he comes on MSN, he would expect you to e-mail him but dont, just block him
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