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writes:Hi, basically I have been with my gf for 2 years, and I'm ready to meet her parents. However the main thing is to explain how we met. It's complicated, becuz we met online and that's not cool for her parents, so I need an idea on how we met. She lives 2hrs from me, in a medium size city, I need realistic ideas on how we met, randomly. I initially thought concert, but her city is very limited. I'm gna need a fake reason to why I traveled 2hrs to a place I never been too. Nothing reli compels me to her city and I need a reason in order to parents to get off her case. Btw she isn't outgoing, she is a good housewife sorta girl.
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reader, Deathbunny  +, writes (9 February 2012):
You can "paint it" differently. Say you met online through some group activity or social thing, and then met in real life at some social thing and hit it off.
If you leave "dating site" out of it, it's probably a lot more "acceptable" that way.
I mean, honestly, the interesting part probably didn't start until you met face-to-face anyway... right?
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (9 February 2012):
 Don't lie.
My goodness it's been two years... they will have to accept that many people meet online now... folks used to use personal ads in papers to meet before the internet.
I have to remember that I did NOT meet my current partner online because I have met so many men online in the past...
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (9 February 2012):
 Lying is no way to get to know them, bad bad idea.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 February 2012): I agree, you can't start off lying to her parents! There is NOTHING wrong with meeting someone online, even if her parents feel there is. It's happened, you are both happy, and that matters more than how you actually met.
Exactly because she is not outgoing, and a homebody, even more reason to explain how you met. You would perhaps never have met if you hadn't been online, because of the 2 hr travel distance, and due to her personality.
So rather think of ways to share how happy you both are, how amazing it all is, and that you are aware they are not cool with the idea, but times have changed, and find examples online of many many successful relationships/marriages that have taken place due to online romance.
The above is our opinion - don't lie, no matter what. HOWEVER, you came here asking for help, and the help you want is how to make it acceptable to them?
If a concert won't do, how about a Conference on a topic that both of you are interested in? Or a course? Or a competition? Or perhaps you travelled there with friends and had a chance encounter in a music/book/outdoor store? People even meet in a grocery store parking lot :)
Good luck, most importantly, be yourself.
Wishing you happiness,
xxxx E
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reader, fi_the_tree +, writes (9 February 2012):
 Wow, lying to parents from the off is a REALLY bad idea!!! So what if you guys met online??? Surely when they get to know you, they won't care how you met, but will see a nice young man who treats their daughter the way she should be treated. I would go with telling the truth on this one.
If you start telling lies, it's difficult to keep them going, you might slip up and say the wrong thing. Once it all comes out, who knows what her parents would think??? So be honest to them. Tell then how much you love her, and that you're glad you met her online, otherwise you may never have met her at all! All the best!! :)
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