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writes:I wrote a problem on here a few months ago asking for people who had experience of counselling for advice on whether it helped etc. As my problems have worsened, I have recently made my decision to go ahead with counselling and have made an appointment to see someone next week. I just feel I can't go on living my life the way I do now and feel I need answers as to why I feel like this.The only problem is I'm scared now! I don't know what to say, how to explain the way I feel or how I will feel telling someone things that have happened to me that have never passed my lips before, especially someone I don't know. And I know she will focus on these things, I can admit they are probably the basis of my problems.Please could anyone with or without experience of counselling or therapy reply. Thanks. Reply to this Question
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reader, PrunellaGringepith +, writes (31 March 2006):
 As part of my training to be a psychologist ( I am still studying) I was required to see a clinical psychologist several times myself.
I have to admit that I went initially with a bad attitude as I didn't feel that there was anything 'wrong' with me to begin with, but a trained councellor is used to dealing with people who are frightened or reluctant to talk and I was soon talking my hear out about my worries, my fears about my future and my upcoming marriage.
Try to relax, just say anything that is on your mind, and start slowly if you want to, you dont have to gush out your whole life story until you feel ready. Congratulations on taking a huge step towards happiness and stability, and good luck!
P.S. The best thing about seeing is councellor is that they ARE a complete stranger and will never judge you on what you tell them, or tell anyone else. It can be really hard to talk about he things that affect us the most, but this is an important step in healing the wounds of our past.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 March 2006): Be honest, be open and speak from your heart, dear. Your therapist will guide you through this. Most counselors are trained to be very compassionate, thoughtful listeners and ask questions, later. But do keep a very open mind. You may hear truthful things you don't want to hear. Anything they say to you...do not mistake it as criticism, harsh scrutiny or judgement. They are not doing this-they are merely sharing another point of view to your problem. Just go and remember, to relax and not worry. Good for you taking this first big step in making a remarkable change in your life! Be proud of yourself for doing this. Good luck
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