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writes:i'm 19 turning 20 and i was with my bf for a year and a half before we decided to call it quits. Our relationship was a little complicated. We met at college and didnt live too far from eachother while being at home. My bf always respected my parents but my mom just didnt like him. He comes from a very poor, dysfunctional family. He and I care about eachother alot just seemed to argue often while being at home.We had alot of issues that we worked on but couldnt take it anymore and broke up. Now that we took some space and time we both feel we want to give it one more shot and take it VERY slow to see what we have left in us. The breakup was kind of bad for we are both bitter and he did something not right to me, but gave me reasoning and apologized. My mom tells me hes not going anywhere in life and she doent like him he didnt treat me right etc and if he comes here she wont even say hello and she doesnt wanna hear about it.(screaming this at me if i may add) My familys approval means alot to me, but it is my life and if i want to make the same mistake twice i can. I never went back to an ex bf before but i really love this guy. I just want her to accept it if me and him try it again. He's done alot of changing and im hoping somehow a miracle can happen and they can see it. help =[were going back to school in 2 weeks which is when we will probably try again, i'm thinking of just not telling them in case it does not work..and if it is working out i have to figure out what to do...no violence occured. We were best friends. Just butt heads alot. Nothing that cant be fixed
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reader, ams +, writes (4 January 2009):
 I agree with you that its your life and you can do with it what you please. I go through this similar situation with my mother. When they that you arent being treated right, its because they want to see you treated the best. Your her baby and she wants the best for you and to protect you. She saw that he hurt you once, and she doesnt want to watch it happen to you again.
Maybe talk to her and tell her you understand where she is coming from but she needs to understand your views too. Because, lets face, you will probably do what you want anyway. I would. And let her know that whatever he must have done, it couldnt have been so bad because you havent completely written him off. Stroke her ego a little too and say something like, "You raised me right mom and smart too, I know what Im doing." It will make her more comfortable with your decisions.
Hope this helps!
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