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writes:i am in my early 20s and so is my boyfriend, we have been together for about 2 years and i really love him, went from someone who was always single and fell hard for him early on and the feeling was and still is mutual. the plan was even from over 18 months ago that i would be moving several hours away to complete my studies. at the moment i currently split my time between my family home and my boyfriends although increasingly spending more time with him leading up to my departure. he is in full support of my continuation of my studies, however the toll of me going is i think starting to strain us a little. i am due to leave in a week and a half and things are starting to get a little tense. the course is only for a year then i would be moving back home, probably in with him as soon as i am financially able. we have a plan on how to keep in touch when i am there, skype accounts have been set up etc and visits and transportation are starting to be orgainised. for the past 10 days i have noticed i have become more needy and mood swingy, we are trying to spend as much time together as possible but my departure is a elephant in the room stopping us from just being together. what can we do about this? is there anything i can do prior to my departure to ease the tension? also, the conversation has been presented by not decided about who is going to help me move in. i dont think i want my bf there and would rather he came up to visit me in a couple of weeks. i am moving into a flat shared with 6 other people both male and females around our ages. i would rather my parents helped me move as i know i will not want him to leave if he helps me move in and it will simply be too upsetting. i know it sounds like we are far to dependant on each other, however- the past year has been rough on us both with me being very ill, 2 family berevements and work stresses and being there for each other made us as close as ever so this move is going to be hard. am i being unfair to ask him not to come up when i initally move in? or should i respect the fact he wants to see where i am living for his peace of mind.. Reply to this Question
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reader, 1busybee  +, writes (22 September 2012):
You should move out on your own. The boyfriend can always visit anytime you can get together. Keep the relationship light and fun. You are both young with your whole life ahead of you stop stressing and start studying!!!
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (20 September 2012):
 TALK about it.....
and I think that letting him see where you will be living and meeting your flatmates is a good idea to be honest.
I know that the leavings are hard.... but in this case I think it's for peace of mind...
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