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writes:I really need help!I'm a girl who's going to get married with a funny loving man. I haven't ever fancied women at all. But there's a woman whom i've been working with on a project. The way she looked at me and smiled at me was not like the others. This morning we had a presentation for the project's overview and conclusions which means we've done. I noticed myself that i tried to keep my eyes away from her coz anytime i scanned through her, she gave me that look with a super nice smile which gave me even imagination of things we would do if we got to be alone somewhere. She's an intelligent talented woman who i don't even know straight or gay. But i'm getting married anyway to the man i love. But the thought about her drilled me deep down with the feeling i haven't ever experienced. Somehow i really want to know what it is with that bloody feeling. I really want to ask her out for a drink and talk more. Should i do what i want by now or stay away from this whole soon-to-be mess?Thanks everyone for reading. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 July 2012): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you, you two. I took the first reader's advice. When talking to her on the phone about the business then when nearly hanging up i asked her to hang out and have a drink. She said she was heading out of town the following day so cannot commit if she could meet up. But i took it as a rejection and told meself that "awright, she's straight and having a boyfriend". I thought of myself so stupid when asking her out, she might think i'm so gay and avoid me. Anyway good thing is i stopped thinking about her since then. I will keep the things between us just for business.
Thanks again.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 July 2012): Hi,
Maybe this is just a passing attraction, maybe it's not. I agree with the previous post, just invite her for a drink after work. There is nothing wrong with that in the sense that it'll be mere socialising between co-workers. Get to know her and see if there is anything that would justify the way you feel. Beware not to cross any line though, maybe you will find her even more charming but the point of going for drinks has to be friendly chats.
You can do that OR ignore your feelings and stay away from her, but then you don't want to keep thinking about it after your wedding or worse find that you feel the same about another woman.
The choice is yours, choose well and make sure no one is hurt. Good luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 July 2012): I think that you should ask her for a drink and get to know her a bit more, there's no harm in trying to figure out your feelings and you may end up not even liking her after talking to her! Its more than likely that if you just left it, you would regret it in the future which subsequently could affect your realationship with your soon-to-be husband.
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