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female
age
36-40,
anonymous
writes:My ex-boyfriend dumped me and moved out of our apartment 4 months ago. He told me he didn't see a future with me and said he didn't think he was completely over his ex-wife (they have been separated for 3 years, married for 2, and have a son together, the reason they aren't divorced is because she hasn't turned in the paperwork). It was unexpected, as the night before he said he loved me and wanted to be with me. He was homesick and becoming depressed, but he insisted on staying with me and then both of us moving closer to his family when the lease was up. I am getting over this slowly, and I am excited about being single and concentrating on myself and my happiness. But he keeps in contact with me. At first it was a text every two weeks and he would say he missed me. Now it's once a month with him asking how I am. When I put pictures up on my myspace he comments on them. He still has every single picture he took of me or that I sent him in his myspace photo album, and some of the pictures have their original captions with the pet name he had for me, and things like "this heart belongs to you", "do you know how amazing you are". I decided recently that I wasn't going to respond to him anymore, so when he sent me his monthly text, I deleted it. A couple days later he sends me a blank myspace message with a question mark in the subject line. I'm getting frustrated because I want to move on, but it seems he is still trying to keep me under his thumb. Is he not over me? We are both in our mid-twenties, if that helps.
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reader, 2old4this +, writes (5 April 2009):
 Hey, you want to move on so do so. You deleted his text, now delete his number, his myspace account from your friends list and make it private. Completely cut ties with him. When he tries to call don't answer. If he doesn't get it then just flat out say to him that you don't need to see or talk or have anything to do with him anymore. Thats how you move on, by erasing him from your life. And, don't worry about his feelings, because he didn't worry about yours. Oh, and don't say you want to keep him in your life because that just doesnt work.
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