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writes:My girlfriend loves to talk about other people. It can be something small to big. I'm the opposite. We are really close and I love her to death. Beside this problem, she has a huge heart. What can I do and say to make her stop.I'm also a christian and this gossiping really makes me guilty, even when I don't contribute.Please help.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 August 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you so much for your advice, I will definitely take it all into consideration.
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reader, DracoX +, writes (17 August 2009):
 hey man good evening, i thought i hook you up with a answer on this, if my other one didnt post anonymously, just to write again... Sounds like you been with this girl for awhile, at least i think so... considering that this would get to you now. But the only advice i could really give is, you got to say something, if it really is making you crazy, something like this my friend, "my head is really crazy right now baby. can you shhhh for a little bit?" you must do this at your own discresion and of course in your own way. But then it falls on the respect of your relationship. how much she respect what you say, but also take in mind this is a personality trait. she likes to talk it probably makes her feel more secure for her to talk to you, she feels more apart. Me personally im a quiet guy, but when i get good converstation i love it..... and when someone that loves me talks to me alot, i try to stay apart of it, but if it really is effecting you in a difficult way you must must display the feeling to her or she naturally will not know. Otherwise just listen girls like good listeners. The only thing otherwise i can say... is, voice your feelings otherwise they will come out in frustration. and you dont want that. guys arent as well inate to there feelings as girls are. we tend to shut them off, as to say because just how we are. sadly for me i sit imbetween on this makes me utterly impossible to understand dont be like me haha... so before i leave you. i have a question for you. If she stopped talking. and gossiping, would you start feeling insecure about this? (would you have her another way?)
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 August 2009): Lol... my friend im 24, i just want to say this. it might sound kinda weird but. i am a quiet guy, im very into myself and i like silence and embrace silence, but i love to here talk too, a way to make her stop is honestly quite simple, you say "hey babe i love you talking but, my head is crazy now. can we shhhh" this is hard to say. but in your own way you will have to say it. eventually she will understand this, as to this is your own personallity trait, but also understand that. she may do this because she likes to talk with you and gossip. because she feels more connected to you that way. and it makes her feel secure. and in time you may realize her not talking as much. will make you feel like something is odd.... i guess in another way what im trying to say is.... even though you hate it. you love it. because this is just another part of her. ( would you have her any other way?)
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