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writes:So here it goes. I am a single guy with feelings for other guys, but still in the closet and its better that way for me. I am 22 now and I have never been in a relationship before or even had a boyfriend. My life is a bittersweet adventure. I am not your average gay guy. I dont hang out in gay bars or pick up men or cruise. I am not into the whole Feminine thingy. I am just a regular guy who likes relationships, romance and blah blah!. I am doing great in my studies - I mean really great. I am a club president plus other stuffs. I am a normal friendly guy who likes people. Its like I have things going on for me when it comes to this arena. But I guess what I am trying to ask is this; how come I have all the other things but I cannot find love. For GOD's sake I am 22. I am not good at gaydar and the only people I suspect are those who are extremely gay- you know what I mean. But I want just a normal straight acting guy and I cant meet one. It gets frustrating. I wanna have someone who will hold me and tell me he loves me and that I cannot find. The only consolation is from LGBT films - I have watched so many of them- which makes me happy but at the same time extremely sad as I know I dont have that. What should I do? stay unhappy forever? I am reading some of the people's questions here and I think "you must be lucky" cause you even have someone who is giving you signals or who has kissed you or something. But for me it's a sad tale. What am I to do? NB. no one has approached me before. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 August 2008): lols...glad to hear that you're feeling better =] and when you do meet that perfect guy...make sure you hold him tight and make sure he knows that you love him! I didn't hold on to my first one tight enough and he left me =| but I'm planning to lock the next one up!(not literally lol) and you're in your early 20s! you are at your prime and you still have a lot of time ahead of youuuu and man....the more I read about your question the more similarity I feel xD well Good Luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 August 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHey, I wanna thank the anonymous guy who has given me his insight to my problem. I guess this is a good sign that something wonderful can happen to me out here. I guess I need to be more observant and approachable or whatever I am supposed to be. Thanks very much and I appreciate your views. I am feeling better now.. lol
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 August 2008): Awww you don't seem so happy _ well...I guess I'm kind of like you....but I'm just not studious enough...I used to had this guy friend who wanted to talk to me on the phone and because I was somewhat bored...I started calling him...After a week of talking I started getting used to it and we'd talk every single day for 4 months....during those 4 months he asked if I were gay and he would say he loved me and all that and I guess I began to fall for him...I guess you should start talking to some close guy friends that you have and see if they are interested in being more than just friends....I'm only 17 and I guess I could say he was my first "boyfriend" if we ever had anything going on between us...but things didn't last because I never really spent time with him at school....I heard that if a guy's hair whorl on the back of their head goes counter-clockwise they are most likely homosexuals and as for me....it actually does go counter-clockwise....I have also heard that 80% of homophobic men actually have secret homosexual feelings...so yea...I am currently having feelings for one of my friend who has a counter-clockwise whorl and is extremely homophobic which makes it that much harder for me...but I'm okay with it kus I really do like him...well Good Luck with finding your perfect man and don't just find some random guy to sleep with for a one night stand kus I believe that someone like you can find a great guy =]
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 August 2008): im gay to but im a girl and you can find love trust me hun if you have any questions fore me ill be glad to ancer the questions
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 August 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you very much for the advice. Surely I wouldnt wanna be like the 36 yr old guy, hahah!. I think what I am digesting from here is, I should try to start something more than just waiting for the water to come my way. I will try to follow the advice. Thank you very much guys. it feels great now.
Muchas gracias
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 August 2008): Ok, lets just clear out something: There is no such thing as an 'average' gay guy. You get gay men who prefers to be defined by their sexuality, and those are the ones who tend to be femme, and hang out in gay bars.
However, there are many gay guys out there, like yourself, who are only gay in the sence that they prefer men as dating partners. It is difficult to identify men like that, since they tend not to run around yelling:'Im gay!'
I think a good idea might be to get out of the closet and confide in a few close friends. It might be easier to share this info with girls, since they are likely to know more gay men... See, female gaydar are a bit more accurate.
Also, don't wait for people to come to you, approach attractive guys and test the waters!
Good luck, remember, you deserve to be happy, but take control, do something from your side t make things better!
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 August 2008): No-one knows which way you're bending, which is why no-one has approached you. Until you walk down the street singing 'I'm a little teapot' no-one is likely to approach you. I suppose you could try approaching other pretty boys instead of waiting for them to approach you, which might cut the waiting time down somewhat..
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