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writes:Hi :)I'm from Europe and It's been a long time that I'm thinking of spending 6 months in the USA,in a High School.I'll turn 15 on 21st June (15 is the age to study abroad)and it's my dream.I asked my mom but she doesn't want me to go there :( she didn't say why! I've spoken with people who went to study in the US and they told me that when you come back you're different and you are an adult because you're mature.I don't really love my school and our system here,we don't have a lot of interesting courses like Americans.The cost is 5300 euros(maybe my grandma will help me).I don't know how to say to my mom that I want to go there and that's my dream,and it'll be great for my future...How can I do this? I want to change my air,breathing differently as I do.I want to meet other people,live in another family and change my world for a few months.I want to thinking of who I'm really and my plans for the future.I think 15 is the good age because I have no boyfriend and no real friends so it'll be easy to leave.I'm afraid in not doing this now...when I'll be 18,I'll probably have a boyfriend,a lot of friends and I'll start university.Please you're the last way for me to go...help me :(I'm really sad and I've just cried,I love my life but I want to discover new stuff.I'm a girl who loves school and literature,history,English,....that's so interesting!Could you help me?Thanks,Caroline xoxoxo
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 July 2008): Sometimes the things we are looking for are right in front of us all along. The united states is not this iconic place people seem to think it is. Movies are just that fictional time and space that may touch your spirit but when it really comes around it always looks much better on screen. Maturity comes from inside not where you are and certainly not the "magical" united states. If you want maturity then look to your mom I am sure she will have some great advice, the years do that to you. As far as higher education take some courses, look for something completely not you and learn all about it education is about finding and looking in the unexpected and you don't have to go across the ocean for it. Just a note most people from this side of the ocean dream of being there for a bit too.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 June 2008): Brilliant Caroline,
I'm smiling cause I like that solution a lot better. You should come study in London, it's more fun here. LOL. We've got many international students, but people come over at 17/18, not before. If you can just hold on untill 18, you can get a scolarship or if you can't you'll be able to work and study in the USA. You can do it girl, I know you can, you will get your dream, you just have to wait and work hard to get the best grades you can.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 June 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you a lot guys :)
I've changed my plans,I'll probably pass my senior year in the USA.My mom is ok with the age (17-18) :)
At 18,I could have a financial aid which is about 2000 euros.
And I'll finish my secondary years in my school in Europe.Going in the USA after secondary school will be so good for my CV!!! After passing one year in a High School in the US,I'll come back home and I'll start my studies of journalism here or in another place.I think it's the best way for me,and I'll be an adult,and my mom won't be worried because I won't be a kid anymore.Thank you dear aunts,to the others and especially to DiovanLestat
Love,
Caroline
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 June 2008): I think your mum is right. At 14/15 I don't think your mature enough to travel to another country to study. Of course you have your dreams, but why should anyone pay for you to have your dreams realised. School is about learning things, so you can get a good job and a good future. It's not about fun and games and what feels good. You've freinds that study in other countries, I bet there not as young as you, otherwise, I bet they have rich families and go to expensive private schools. Is it fair for you to take money from your family to spend on your own interests this way.
You want to change your life, have you tried to do different things at home? Things may look exciting in the USA from where you live, but I assure you that there is boredom and restrictions there too. The grass always looks greener from the other side. It's unlikely that you will get the freedom and excitement you crave if your living with another family, you will probably find they are more concerned for you safety and restrict your movements because your not their child. What about your friends, your family, wont you miss them? Is life so bad at home that you really need to run so far away.
Anyway, If you want to do this thing so badly, then prove to your mum how sensible and mature you can be. Find the money yourself, find out how to arrange the school, the family and everything else you will need. Discuss how you will manage to support yourself, without becoming a burden to anyone whilst your away. You will need money for school fees, food, lodging and rent, clothes, trips and transport. You will also need money for the airfare and any emergencies that may come up. If you show her that you have planned and are serious about this, she may be more enthusatic about you going.
You say that you don't like Briitsh education because it's too strict, and you prefer the courses in America. Well what country are you living in, what courses are you doing at the moment. What courses do you want to take in America that will improve your chances of getting a job. As far as I know the standard requirements of maths, English, (or whatever language you speak) a foreign language, sciences are standard in most countries for 14/15 year olds, but I may be wrong. You will still need to get qualifications in reading, writing and mathematics no matter where you are. Do you intend to live in America, if you intend to move back to Europe you will have to check if your American qualifications are valid or do a conversion course to make them suitable for Europe.
I personally would suggest that you wait untill your older and can do this dream on your own. You might try to get good grades at school and try for a scholarship, so you can go to school in America for free. In the meantime, try to improve life where you are at the moment. Find new hobbies, make new friends and try to make the best of life and find happiness no matter where you are in the world.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 June 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI've always been a fan of the USA,I visited the UK twice,but I don't like the country to study there! It's so strict...
A friend lives in NY and High School are so different!
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 June 2008): it is time to confront your mother, it is not her future to decide, it is yours, if it is a money issue then you can wait a little longer, if not then just confront her do not be afraid, I too live literature, and I write alot,and if she still says no, then my suggestion to you is, "Never give up on your dream", aim for what you want, and don't let a simple "no" stop you from what you love.
From:DocDell/USA
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