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writes: I'm 14 years old and ya I now I'm young but I lost my virginity and I'm pregnant!!I don't know watt to do. I just found out this weekend and I'm to afraid to tell my parents ''PLEAZ I NEED ADVICE. I'M SO AFRAID!!''
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 December 2006): i am too! same age. but im engaged. i just fount out 2 nights ago! im scared to tell my parents too!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 November 2006): Hell, someone should say it, your fourteen, you have the rest of your life to make as many plans and mistakes as you like but you are a child, don't give up your childhood, don't give up your education and your chances, this was a mistake and not a planned pregnancy, this could ruin your life, your boyfriends life both your parents lives and cause you a lot of missed oppertunities,
Consider every option even abortion and think hard, you are allowed to make mistakes in your life and treat them as such, you've got loads of time for this later don't rush your life away
Well there, i've said it I'll probably be castagated for saying it but too many people just think of a little baby and forget the poor mother behind it who is giving up her chances at life YOU ARE ONLY YOUNG ONCE.
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reader, MZ.BOO +, writes (21 November 2006):
MZ.BOO is verified as being by the original poster of the question OK...I DID THE PREGNACY TEST AGAIN AND IT CAME OUT POSITIVE AGAI SO I THINK IT MEANS I AM PREGNANT SO..TODAY I TALKED TO MY BOYFRIEND HE SAID THAT HES HERE 4 ME AND HIS KID HE ALSO SAID THAT TO DONT ABORT AND I DONT REALLY WANT TO DO THAT AND I DONT WANT TO GIVE MY BABY ON ODDOPTION I WANNA HAVE MY BABY AND WELL BACK TO WUT MY BF SAID THAT IF MY PARENTS KICK ME OUT THAT HE'LL TALK TO HIS PARENTS ABOUT ME LIVING WITH THEM!!SO NAW I HAVE TO TALK TO MY PARENTS IM SO SCARED THEYLL KICK ME OUT THE HOUSE AND IM AFRAID OF THEIR REACTION!!HOPEFULLY MY MOM WILL UNDERSTAND ME,BUT THANKS PPL AND THANKS 4 THE LUCK ILL NEED IT
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 November 2006): i think you should tell your parents and let the father know as its his as much as yours. i also think you should think before you decide to keep it as babies are hard work.
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reader, lboy  +, writes (21 November 2006):
 hi reader,
i would break the idea to them gently without telling them for certain that you are. a good way to start the conversation would be "what if i were Pregnant" and if they give a supportive answer then break it to them gently. but you have to undrestand that it is going to be a shock to them so dont get too upset if they go off the ricter scale. but considering your age do you think the baby would be wise.
not only may it be hazardous to your health but it is a big commitment which will effect the rest of your life because your schooling would put hold and that could seriouslt damage your carer prospects.
good luck
lboy
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reader, DrPsych +, writes (21 November 2006):
 I used to work in a teen pregnancy unit. I suggest the following:
1. Go to your family doctor to have the pregnancy confirmed. Get a referral to a specialist midwifery service for teenagers. Home testing kits have been known to be wrong occasionnally!
2. Tell a parent, older sibling and the father of the baby.
3. Get counselling to decide what you want to do about the baby - if you have an abortion it needs to be done quickly as the medical complications are lower in early pregnancy. If you decide to keep the baby then you need plenty of support from your family and there maybe local projects for teen mums that your doctor can refer you to.
4. Tell your school teacher as they need to be aware of your condition for health and safety reasons as much as for planning your future education.
5. Try to talk to teen mothers in your area - you will get an appreciation of what you are embarking on should you keep the baby.
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reader, Thomas17  +, writes (21 November 2006):
 Hello,
what you can do is to seek help from teen pregnancy hotlines, or counseling. dont be afraid to tell your parents. tell them as early as possible, so as not to make things worse than now.
wish you luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 November 2006): honey you are young, but first things first i know how scary it must be but you have to tell your parents (or just mom if your more comfortable) and you have to tell your boyfriend! just be honest with them, they will probably be relieved that you told them now rather then 3 months in right? there alot more understanding than you think. if its easier for you talk to them with a friend that know or even the guy or and siblings.
you can do this!!
best wishes honey
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reader, Starkiss +, writes (21 November 2006):
 I think that you should be thinking about your self right now. think of it this way. Do you want to miss out on all the things teenagers do? Are you ready for this? think on it before you tell your parents then when you come up with a plan then you can tell them what you intend to do. Are you going to have an abortion or give the baby up for adoption? Or are you going to keep it?
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 November 2006): You need to tell your parents. As parents, they should be good to you and support you through the pregnancy. You also need to tell the guy that got you pregnant, and hopefully he'll be a man and step up to the duty.
I bet it's scary being so young and in that situation. Unfortunately, I'm a guy and obviously cannot fully fathom the feeling. Personally, I am against abortion, but if you're not, that's an option.
If you are going to go through with it, you need your parents to support you because at that age, I doubt you're mature enough to handle that responsibility, even though it's coming.
Talk to them, and pray that they will be true parents. That's all that I can say... is that in this situation, you need them more than you may think.
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