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writes:I am a little confused right now and know that I can get good insight here. I have been friends with this guy for about a year and a half and we have been getting closer in the past couple of months. I have been trying to hold off on having sex with him...he has wanted to come over here a few times and I have put the stoppers on it. I saw him at a function last night and he emailed me today telling me that I looked hot and he was looking forward to seeing me. I suspect that he might have had a few drinks when he sent this email. After the meeting tonight I took a big risk...for me and asked him to my place and he said no. It has been a back and forth situation like this for awhile and I am thinking it would be wise to cut him loose. He is a terrific person but I just cannot seem to read him right. I was offended and confused tonight and I made it clear to him. It is not the end of the world but is it time to say good bye. Reply to this Question
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reader, elsie  +, writes (3 April 2007):
 youve been honest and you werent ready to go further.he has a few drinks sends you an email then cowers away when you tell him you are ready???on the plus side maybe hes got cold feet now and has become wary of you?it might be an idea if you arrange a weekend away from both your homes and can be on mutual territory.also maybe he realises that you are a girl to be respected and sleeping together is a big step for you and you will want more from him i.e. commitment??like you said its not the end of the world you have your self-respect.he has many other good qualities so give it one more try maybe and if you get a gut feeling that you still cant read him then let him go.
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