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*akeithen23
writes:me an my girlfriend have been dating for about 4 to 5 months now an ived lied in the past about little things an she has had problems trusting me ever since but we have talked about her past an she has been like that with every guy she starts having feelings for the other day she told me i was cheating because i wasnt at home an i didnt call her but i tell her everything an nothing seems to work any more i even got her a promise ring an it means the world to me its two step from being married thats just how i feel what do i do to fix this i need help baddly
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 August 2008): If someone has a hard time trusting because they've been hurt then it's almost impossible to talk them into trusting you. What you have to do is show them through what you do. Follow through with what you say you'll do. Make an effort to show her that you trust her. Eventually she'll lighten up, or she won't. If it's the latter then you have to leave her alone until she's able to find a way to cope. If she doesn't trust you and is showing no signs of slowly building a trust with you then it can never work out.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 August 2008): If she continues this then you may have to leave her alone until she gains her confidence back. It is hard to trust someone after you have been hurt in the past..especialy if you have been hurt many times...I know...I've been there...but all I can recommend is that you just be patient with her because she may be hurting and tell her that you understand...but if she still cannot trust you then I hate to say it...but you must leave her alone...and just give her time to rebuild her esteem and confidence. Then you could happily move foward(:
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