I'm fed up with my friend who drifts away then comes running back.

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Question - (14 February 2008)

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A female age 30-35, *oveStruckPanda323 writes:

I've been friends with this girl for several years now. We're in our sophmore year. And for the last couple of years things have been rocky. When things are going good in her life she drifts away from me and stop talks to me and basically isn't my friend anymore.

Then when something bad happens to her she'll come running back to me apologizing and then asking for help. I'm sort of fed up with it. And I said it wasn't going to continue this last time. I wouldn't be her friend again. But as always I gave in. It's just too hard. What should I do?

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A female reader, LoveStruckPanda323 +, writes (17 February 2008):

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Thank you everyone. I'm going to stick with her this time. But next time I'll try my best to be harder on her and set a line and understanding. I don't know if I'll ever be able to stop being her friend totally. But I'll see. Hopefully it won't happen again. But I'm sure it will. Thank you again for all the advice!!

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A female reader, Laura1318 +, writes (17 February 2008):

Do you want to be a door mat for her? When her boots get muck, she will find you and walk all over you and then leave until the next time.

Learn to say 'NO!'

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A female reader, loveee +, writes (16 February 2008):

I know how you feel me and my best friend drifted away from eachother (its a long story) and now we are close again however things have not been the same but we talk to each other and be honest and tell eachother how this friend will work, i think you need to talk to your friend she may be using you she may not but i dont think you should give up on her you say u have been frinds for along time maybe she just wants other friends aswell.

talk to her. all the best.God bless. xx

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A female reader, LoveStruckPanda323 +, writes (16 February 2008):

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Thanks for the help. But the fact is that I tell myself not to be her friend. But I just can't not be her friend. It's hard since we've known each other for so long. *Sigh* I just wish it didn't have to be this way. Gah.

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A female reader, lushlass93 +, writes (15 February 2008):

your friend is clearly taking advantage of you and you need to forget her if she is using you like this all the time it is not fair on you at all and you need to forget her tell her she has gone to far and you dont want to be her friend anymore

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A female reader, Laura1318 +, writes (14 February 2008):

You have a good disposition but you need to be aware that your friend is only using you when she has problems.

You need to harden your heart towards her .She is taking advantage of your good nature.

Such friends we can do without.

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