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writes: I have a live-in partner for almost 3yrs. he is a married man but they are separated. he has 1 son on his wife and 1 son on me. since of our being together i always helped him to support his child on his wife, i gave him money for the needs of their baby. when i got pregnant i was used my own money for the delivery of my baby. i love him so much thats why i've done take it all. last month he leave us because he has plan to go abroad, he is now living with his parents.he promise to comeback and he want me to wait and be loyal for him. every time he call he always told me that he love me so much.. he always told me to hold on.. but honestly, im getting tired.. i don't know if i have to still believe on his promises.. i love him very much but in 3yrs. of our situation, i felt so tired. now i have suitors, a kind and single man. i like him but im not ready to take his love. but the worst is we got sex. i am so guilty right now because i made a promise to the father of my son that i will wait for him and i was only for him. i need an advice for my situation, please help me.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 March 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthank you very much for your advice. i appreciate it so much, it touch my heart and to know that there is someone like you who can understand my situation is a big help for me.. thank you!!
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reader, bharat mehta  +, writes (28 February 2010):
 The answer of ' followtheblackrabbi' is so perfect, I have nothing to add, and say simply- consider this answer.
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reader, followtheblackrabbit  +, writes (28 February 2010):
 The father of your son seems like he is taking advantage of you. In three years, it does not look like he has been serious about you and him. You have the right to be tired. If you feel something for this kind, single man...then, go with him. The father of your child is still legally married, and honestly, it's disrespectful what he has been doing...letting you pay for the bills of his wife. He is selfish. He goes abroad and expects you to just wait there? That's not fair. Leave it be, honey. If you think you still want him, ask him about what he plans to do. Does he plan on marrying you? Is he going to get a job and support you and his baby? Even if he answers yes, remember that it has been THREE YEARS, and nothing has advanced. Move on with your life. It may be hard at first, but please, think of your son. He needs a father figure, a man who can give him what he deserves, a man close by. Think of yourself, you need a man who can make you happy, a man who respects your feelings and wants to take care of you. I wish you the best of luck.
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