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writes:i have this bestfriend since we were in 5th grade. we get along together. we were very close just like brothers. when we were in 6th grade he was in another section fom me but that never separates us. we still meet after class and i go to their house and talk even nonsense things. it was fun. when we entered highschool he attended a different school from mine and it seemed that we barely saw each other. few times i would visit him and it seemed nothing had changed. college days, i never saw him at all. he attended a miitary school and i wasin a medical field. even without seeing each other we were able to communicate with each other through letters. he would send me cards from their school and i would do the same. he even invited me to join their family during his graduation. i wasnt able to attend though because that time i was new to this hospital.after college, as far as i can remember, i never saw him. no communication and its like we lost each other. few years after, i searched him in friendster. so happy that he's there. i befriended him and he respond positively. the catch she has this girlfriend now. its never a problem to though. one time his girlfriend called me asking me what do i need to her boyfriend which is my bestfriend. i just said nothing. he is my bestfriend. whenever i text his number there is a certain doubt in me that he is not the one who is answering.months after we became re acquainted again through friendster, our family have gone through tough time. my father became unfaithful and the meeting of him and my mom didnt go well and it didnt go well to me as well because my father basically hurt me physically.that night i texted him. he offered help that we tell someone with authority. he asked me if im okey, stuff like that. after all those text i got from him that i felt i have someone with me, i received a text from is number saying stop involving him in my lifes problem. and stop talking to him. it hurt me a lot. i didnt talk to him anymore and i dont email him because its his girlfriend who answers his emails. and i cancelled my friendster account.after so many years, in this facebook age, i got connected with diffrent friends of mne since elementary and i knew he is within my friends circle.forgetting everything that happened before i emailed him in his facebook account greeting him merry christmas and if he's in town to meet. but he said he is still in deployment and will be going home before new year. in short we never meet. i kept an open communication with him even if were not connected in facebook. one time he added me as his friend and i accepted it. chat and exchange of emails started.in one of our exchange of mails, i admitted that im gay and he judge. but, he's cool with it. he said its not a problem with him. i must admit im the one approaching him. these past few months that i was talking to him there is a certain excitement that i feel to chat and read his emails. there is disappointments when he's not online or dont answer my emails. i know the symptoms, im falling for him. yes you read it right, im falling in love with my straight bestfriend. do you think he still consider me as his bestfriend?what will i do now that im falling deeply for hm?should i tell him of my feelings?how would i know he still consider me as his bestfriend?hope you can enlighten me. thanks!!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 March 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionunfortunately, even if i havent told him that i love him very much, he's beginning to ignore me. i dont know if im paranoid or what. speedycakey: thank you for your answer. i dont really have the intention of telling him. and i dont have the guts to say it to him. im afraid that it will be the end of everything for us. am i prepared to loose him? no! he meant everything to me, as a bestfriend mostly. its just sad that after your relationship with her, you are like strangers now.
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reader, SpeedyCakey  +, writes (13 March 2011):
 Since he's been your best friend for so long and he said he has no problem with your being gay, I think he's still going to consider you his best friend.Also, I think you only have a crush on him. It happened to me too. I'm a girl and I had a crush on my straight girl best friend. She became bi-curious for a while and we had a relationship but she decided that she didn't like it anymore and dumped me. It broke my heart, and now we're not friends anymore and we don't talk. This might happen to you so please don't tell him how you feel. The crush will pass.
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