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writes:Ok, so I know I have asked for some help regarding to this situation before...anyways, i need more help. for those who didnt saw my other questions, well this is the thing. I met a guy like a month ago. and well we have been going out as "friends". He told me he's looking for a friend in general and that he needs like a month or two before he gets into a relationship (he broke up with his bf a couple of months ago, and it seemed it was kinda serious since the relationship lasted over a year). anyway, last week I went to his house and we watched a movie, and he was so nice, he even lit some candles and he even made me some brownies.... i saw when he made them so i know he didnt put anything in it lol.well while we were watching the movie, things started to get heated up...i was really cold, so he hugged me and well, we kissed, ended up in his bedroom and well we didnt had sex, we just touched ourselves. Since we didnt get to finish the movie, I went to his house again this week to finish the movie, and again we cuddled, and when the movie was done, things started to get heated up again, we kissed and ended up in his bedroom again. This time was more passionately, he kissed me with such a passion that I can not even describe. we ended the day with a shower...I'm falling in love with this guy, but I just think he's not taking this seriously. I just came out of the closet, and well I'm new to the gay relationship thing. I know he needs a break to get over his past relationship but I dont want to have a life of just sex. I know sex is important in a relationship, but it shouldnt be the main thing. what do I do? the 1st time we played with each other, I asked him what was next, and thats when he told me he needed a month or two before he gets into a relationship. but i dont get it why he keeps kissing me and hugging me if he is not looking to get in a relationship right now. I'm falling in love with him, I know we've just known each other for like a month. what should I do? i need some one to help me understand this situation and help me. I dont want to end up with a guy who is only looking for sex. I want something serious, a guy who will spend his life with me. I find it hard, since as you may know, most of gay guys are only looking for sex and more sex and more sex ugh
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reader, GeeGee255 +, writes (16 March 2011):
 Many gay men are serial daters, it just part of the lifestyle to them, but not all both my cousins had relationships that lasted 20 years, like anyone else you just have to meet the right person who already wants the same thing you do, not try to get guys who don't want that to change their minds. That would be an excercise in heartache and frustration.
You already know this guy is a longterm guy, since his last relationship lasted over a year, it is just a matter of timing with him. He already told you that he will be ready again in a few mths, but not right now, you just have to listen to people and hear what they are telling you.
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