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writes:I was wondering if it is weird that i fall in love with like everybody?Just lately I have begun having strong feelings for guys that are like twice my age and totally ugly. Its kind of had to explain but once i meet a guy; no matter how ugly they are, if i spend enough time with them, or i see them enough i legit fall in love with them.And when i say "Fall in Love" i dont mean like a crush i mean like stay up all night crying cause i cant see them type of loveIs this normal?Please help!?
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reader, dmartin89  +, writes (12 November 2010):
 This is very normal for your age.
I'm 21 and I remember "being in love" with some ugly guys when I was your age. Remember this is just your hormones, they will be crazy until you are in your 20s.
I know it may feel like love, but it really isn't. When you're older and find that guy you want to spend the rest of your life with and have your children with you will look back at this moment and think "Jeez, I really liked him?!"
I was "in love" with a ginger, short, spotty guy on my school bus who was 8 years older than me. God knows why! I used to make up stories in my head about how he would one day tell me how much he loves me and that we should move to Fiji and build our how house and have lots of sex lol.
There is nothing wrong with these types of feelings, they make teenage life what it is; confusing! :-)
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reader, shnookims  +, writes (12 November 2010):
 Hey!
I can't say from self experience whether the crying at night is normal or not. Maybe you should think about seeing a therapist....?
but I do know that from around the onset of puberty, girls feel like every single infatuation is love. You will think you love your first boyfriend and as you date more and more, you will think that the last boyfriend wasn't love but your current one is. I think it is very hard to distinguish between love and lust.
My honest opinion is that you're lonely and insecure. Which is why you're going for guys who are out of your league in age. i don't know about the looks factor but I do know that someone you think is beautiful on the outside can start looking extremely ugly when you find out their personality isn't great. And vice versa. "Ugly people" can start to look really attractive when they have an awesome personality. You can also be attractyed to the simple things on a person, like their eyes or smile. Less attractive people generally have softer eyes and more sincere smiles, I tend to find .
Don't you have a friend who's also experiening the ups and downs of puberty that you can convide in? Hag out, meet new people, have fun and try to forget about these older men. Maybe you'll find someone around your age.
I might be totally off but I hope I helped a little.
Have a good day :)
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