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writes:I’m 21 and female. I have a boyfriend who is great and I’ve been with him for about 2 years. I lost my virginity to him, he was my first proper boyfriend and I would say I love him. He was cheating on me when we first got together but still going out with his ex, obviously I didn’t know this but I took him back. Now I work with this 17 year old who is really kind and funny and makes me laugh all the time, but she is a she!!! And I have to admit I am really falling for her. She makes me so happy whenever I am around her and I love teasing her. She doesn’t have a boyfriend but she does seem to like me cos she flirts a lot! We get close, e.g. I put my hand on hers, we stand next to each other touching, she tickles me, I poke her, she pokes me etc. What do I do about my boyfriend? Am I a lesbian? How can I make something more physical happen? Please help!
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 January 2007): hi,
i think i have similar feelings to you. do you know whether this girl is gay? it could just be that she is friendly, however your feelings imply otherwise. i think you'll never know whether youre straight or gay unless you experience it for yourself. the thoughts i have about people also imply that im gay however im too scared to act on them. probably because i live in a small town to begin with & ive never actually felt a connection with anyone. anyway i just wanted to say that i think you should go for it,test the water so to speak otherwise you'll never know &may come to regret it.good luck ! x
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reader, d4u04 +, writes (18 November 2006):
 It doesn't sound like you're a lesbian, just confused, it's a common misconception to catagorise someone due to finding one female attractive for example. If you find that you are solely attracted to girls and no longer to males, then I would say you're a lesbian.
At the point you're at now though, you're just probably wondering what it would be like to be with a girl, as for your boyfriend, I would say discuss your feelings with him, if he loves you he'll understand that you want to spread your wings sexually. You never know, he might suggest a 3-some, and if you're apprehensive about being with girls on your own, this may be a way of, for lack of a better term, breaking you in.
Now, this girl you like, this one is tricky because you haven't said if you know her sexual preference, but I'll asume you don't. This is hard because it's not like you can drop 'are you gay' into casual conversation. But the attraction does seem to be there with the touching, etc. I'm not sure how close you are with this girl in terms of being able to talk openly to her, but if you are, you could say things like "have you ever wondered what it's like with a girl" or something to that effect. You will then probably be able to gauge by her reaction if she has/hasn't/it up for it.
I'm sorry I couldn't give you a definate answer but as I said, it's tricky. But good luck and I ho[e I haven't confused you more hun x
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