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anonymous
writes:In certain situations i become really shy and it takes me a long time to open up to people and to just converse normally... How can i become less shy? I hate it, around my friends i'm quite extroverted but around new people, or people that i am interested in, i must seem like a bore because i find it so difficult to talk. Apparently i've been like this since i was younger so i don't know what i can do to overcome it. I hate it and it really affects me. For example there is this guy i like who asked me out the other day so we caught up but i'm not sure if we're going to catch up again now because i didn't talk much at all. I especially don't know what to say when I feel i have nothing substantial to contribute to the topic of conversation...What can I do to overcome this problem? Particularly any advice from people who felt they themselves have been able to overcome shyness would be really appreciated :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 June 2007): Hun, i exactly have the same problem - it's awful isn't it! well in your situation you've actually had a boy ask you out, i haven't - boys are put off me because of my anxiety! shame really cos ders blumin loads of boys i'd luv to go out with lol. Anywayz, The advice i tell myself and that i'm offering to you is; although you're shy, to simply come out of your shell a bit more and just talk to someone e.g. who you sit next to in a lesson. It doesn't have to be much, just say 'hiya, what you been up to'? or 'Wow! i luv your bag'. It really is surprising how few words can get you into a nice friendly convo with someone you'd least expect! Just go with the flow and if you happen to say summat stupid - and they laugh... just laugh with them. Gud luck x
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 June 2007): hi, i myself suffer from the same anxiety around people. i become very aware of myself and my body language and think that the whole world can see i am very nervous. i look for something to say and it's never good enough. i think "i can't say that, they will see how boring, or stupid i am. if you are like me, your thinking process during those times is very negative, i call it punishing. i am getting a bit better now, as i realised that i don't have to beleive what my head is telling. i asked myself, what is my worst fear. to make a fool of myself? well, personally when someone says something a bit clumsy or a bit silly. i find it actually quite sweet. someone told me something that really helped me: don't worry about what people are thinking of you. they are too busy wondering what you are thinking of them.s. from london
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