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writes:im 18 and have a boyfriend whom i love . He doesnt work he is still in matric. i have a full time job and there is someone that works with me who is 33, married with one child who is extremely into me! we both wont let anythin happen because of the obvious! but we both think continuously about pleasuring the other! i could easily hold myself back in a situation! he couldnt. but now he is trying hard to get this attraction away! which seems like the right thing but i dont want to lose the attention! the comments the touches ect... how can i not lose that Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 March 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionhi to all that helped me! i took the advice it was good.
But just to all that read it i just want you to know i firmly believe in saving my virginity till married!!! i was not in anyway wanting physical pleasure from that man! I was more so attracted to the way he treated me! still am but know what my goal is now!
Thank the Lord nothing physical ever did happen and wont now! just needed to hear from someone that could just say NO dont do it! and i no i messed up by even desiring a married man! but i realized what i need to do so thanks to all
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 February 2007): Don't lie. You both already have let something happen...flirting. You have taken to the physical. This has already gone past the entertaining thoughts, to expressing it outside of the mind, to touching...and you have admitted you want it and enjoy it.
I say help him be an honest man who puts him marriage first by telling him he is out of line and he should stay married and faithful or if he cannot do this, he shouldn't be married and then he can follow his lust.
You also need to say I am in a commited relationship and cheating on my BF would devastate him and I will not continue this any longer.
This is not love, this is not honorable and my character means more to me than 10 minutes of lust.
Smarten up already!
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 February 2007): Yes, as Kenny says, the attention and flirting is a little intoxicating. However, the man is MARRIED. He has no business paying you this kind of attention.
Unless you want a whole lot of trouble, you have no choice but to lose his attention, and concentrate on your bf.
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reader, kenny  +, writes (27 February 2007):
 I know its fun getting attention, the flirting and the touches ect. But i can only see an unhappy ending if you got with this older married guy whom you work with. For starters he shoulden't be making eyes at young girls anyway, he has a wife and a child at home, what is he thinking.
I would abolish the flirting with this guy, and stick to your boyfriend whom you say you love.
Good luck x
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